Was I wrong?

[AngieChick]

Sorry, I have to point out that much of "dust" is skin flakes (dander), it's everywhere. Just look where the sun shines through and hits the air. It's all part of the particulate matter we breathe.

I doubt she flakes unless she scratches, which I seriously doubt she would do when serving food (that would take crazy coordination!).

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DH has psoariac arthritis, (an autoimmune disorder) that causes his skin to regenerate faster among other more serious issues. He can be very self-conscious of it. He regularly cooks for us and eats across from us. There are a lot more unappetizing things to see when eating then my beloved, handsome DH and his flaky skin, thank you. We even take him to (shock!) restaurants and eat around other people, who never seem to mind. He might even walk past their food.

You had every right to ask to be moved, it's your dollar, but there was no reason you had to mention to the other employee that it was their skin condition that you had a problem with. You could have given no reason at all.

 

[Dar]

thanks everyone...

I was asked a direct question on why I wanted to move...and I wont lie..i was as polite as I can about it i was not rude and no one else heard the conversation.

the skin flakes were no longer attached to her body...they were hanging in her hair (if that makes sense) all it would have taken is one wrong move and plunk i have added protein.

 

[Ohiochick]

It does sound like psoriasis which is a condition that can be controlled. She was probably unaware of the flakes especially in her hair. She should wear a net I did when I was in food prep.
She will probably lose her job if the hostess tells the boss. Maybe she should be the hostess and not serve food.

 

[spook]

Being a person with Psoriasis, living with flakes, plaque, blisters and horrible skin issues that worked with elders also having worked in a food service many years ago, Many stressed here!

It is repulsive to feel like you are shedding, but there are hair nets, caps, treatments and combs that can help you out that you MUST do in these public jobs.
For years I wore white gloves, teased and embarrassed, its not easy, actually unfair at times at how the public view us.
So, living with a dermatological skin disease, we need to meet the public 1/2 way. As for hair removal with psoriasis, it is a tricky thing. I can trigger a major skin eruption or soars...shaving too, this is why you will see many men with facial hair that have skin problems....but, if you work in food service...clean up, trim the hair, wear coverings to protect the public - its not good business to deal with that.
Also, keeping in mind of the way lawyers, dermatology doctors and the government see these health issues, its not covered under many health insurances due to "pre-existing", creams can cost as little as $20 up to $200+ and the biologic can cost as much as $200 a month for shots to the amount that I take of Remicade at $10,200 for just the vials, that is not having it administered.
Personally I don't blame you for moving, yet its better to have her out on the floor then in the kitchen cooking.
Also I'll tell you, having tight, itchy, flaking, painful skin is such a horrible problem. Your self esteem, depressing thoughts and feelings crop up when you dealing with a flare up- just pure pain and most people do not understand the self hate that we can carry.
Sorry I went off on a rant, I am finally a woman with psoriasis, not a walking plaque or blister.

Edit for: Skin conditions can be controlled, but(!) if you do not have medical insurance often you cannot afford these controls. I also have psoriatic arthritis, its just not fare, painful and you have flares and times when you are as clear as YOU can get.
Oh, and if you say she "should be" on disability or stay home, you do not know if she is a single parent, working to support her elderly family. You don't know her story, I kinda commend you for asking to move, but the comment about her plaque should have been left out. Keeping work when you don't look right, not perfect, finding work at this point in time in our lives, her job may have let her go for other reasons that afternoon, we don't know.
The government will not assist you with the chemotherapy and biological drugs that she may have needed, and it is condition that is not enough to call disabled.
JMO

 

[Picky Chicky]

I would've probably left the restaurant, but I don't disagree with what you did.

True Story:

When I was in my teens, I worked at a Subway/Convenience Store. When the Subway folks needed help, I would come over and help make some sandwiches during a rush. Well, there was a lady there that was probably in her late 30's (old enough to know better - you'll see why in a moment) that wore glasses. She didn't make enough money to buy new glasses and so the ones she had were way too tight for her face. It caused a lot of scabbing on her glasses-line under her temples. It was quite inflamed and I'm sorry to say - pretty gross when you thought of her putting together subs.

Long story short... (too late)... a really rude customer came in and probably deserved to be told where to go, but instead this lady prepared his sandwich and while he was picking out his bag of chips she consciously moved her glasses up and down so the scabbing flaked into his sub. Me, being stupid and young just stared at her completely appauled and grossed out. I should have told the guy not to eat the sandwich, but again... stupid teen me didn't say anything (scared I would get into trouble or fired) and the customer sat down and ate his sandwich.

I hope to teach my daughter the self confidence I lacked so that if this ever happens to her - she won't be too scared to say something.

Breakfast anyone?

 

[Julie08]

I probably would have left as well, at the very least asked to be moved however I would have lied about my reason to request the move saying maybe the table was to drafty or I wanted to be closer to the window something like that.