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Ok, let me first say that I can not always get my point across correctly or fully when not just talking to someone face to face. When I say there always has to be a loser I do not mean that in a bad way as in "you're a loser" I mean that in sports there is a team that won and a team that did not and that is just how it is. When I said I only told most of the kids they did good, I did not finnish what I ment to put and that is I was only able to talk to a few of the kids because all the other families were leaving as soon as thier kids were done. No one elts stayed to support the other children (other than who they came with). And at class twice every week, only about 6 parrents are in the class while there are at least 15 kids. And what do these parrents do while their kids are training??? They are eather outside talking to eachother or sitting on their phones and ipads, not even paying attention to what their kids are doing. I am at every practice and I turn my phone off for the whole hour, I make sure I am watching my DD so that when she looks at me to see if I think she is doing good she has my attention right away, or I can tell her that part of her move was wrong so that she gets it right for when it comes time to test for her next belt she gets it because she knows all the moves and how to do them right. Some of the parrents even drop their kids off and leave I don't get it.
I do belive that all children desurve praise and support in what ever they chose to do and what ever place they come in, but trophies and medals are for the team or the ones that came out on top. But it does not mean that you are no good it just means that if you want that award you do need to work harder for it.
As far as sportsmanship, that is one of the big things that I do teach my children. Weather you win or lose, you walk away with your head up and be supportive of those who won or lost.
Now I am a competitive person, but when it comes to my children in sports I want them to understand that a lot of adults these days are competitive in a bad way. Cheering is great, but booing is not ok (unless it is a refs bad call lol) Parrents such as the ones in Itsren's story just make me sick!
But also with Itsren's story, what those children did at the end, to let her boy take his shot, is just one of the ways to act that children should be tought. You are on a team, that means you help each other because you are on the same side and are going for the same win. What those children did is awsome and exactly what I would expect from my children, give everyone a shot. It makes you a stronger person and makes your team stronger!
I feel that children should learn that you have to work hard to get awards and I agree that younger people in the work force these days do feel they are intitled. Also I agree that these kids are going to have a shock when they are in the real world and they do not just get handed what ever they want because others got it. That is one reason why I do not like the birthday card rules that the schools have, if you are going to hand out invites to your birthday you have to invite the whole class! The hell if I do...., "Well we don't want anyone to feel left out", If you insist that we invite the whold dang class then I guess you are the ones paying for the party! What happens when these kids that all get to go to everyones partys in elementary school get to middle and high school and they do not get invited to ALL the partys? Or what about those two girls in my DD's class that are little disrespectful bullying turds that will not leave my DD alone (this is real but my kids have been taught to not mind what bullies say and how to handle the situations) You really think my kid wants them at her party or you think I will put up with that child or children or that the parents of these children are people whom I want around my family?????
I refuse to go by that rule, I have my children give out their invites durring class if they want, or they have the option to do it at resess also.
I hope that my opinions do not change your minds about me in a negitive way, and I hope I did not upset anyone with my opinion on this subject.
Well I guess if someone disagrees with you then they disagree with me too, cause that's how I see it as well, my children are grown, but they played sports, and that was quite a few years ago. Although I think that professional athletes get WAY too much money, they didn't get there because they were mediocre and someone said good job!! Ask them, most of them got there, because they made sacrifices, and spent months and years perfecting what they did! Just like our Olympic teams, again, I don't agree with the steroid thing ect, but, still all the stories we heard during the Olympics were very heart warming, sometimes heart breaking! But, that doesn't mean that children who aren't "Olympic or professional sport material" shouldn't be encouraged to do the best they can, don't quit and give a high 5 for tyrin!! Cause you never know when that one time you said, "you can do this"!! that they don't turn out to make it to the Olympics ect!
Unfortunately, I came from a dysfunctional family, and my dad took my dreams and smashed them, mostly cause yea, he's a drunk, but, although I have had a few successful events in my life, sometimes I think about what could have been if my parents had been just a little more supportive. Instead of being judged as if, "your income equals your amount of success"
Maybe, I would have done some things different, who knows. I never stopped my children from doing anything they thought they were capable of, and I don't judge them for what they do (for a living) now. I do know that they are both capable of doing more, and I think they need to push themselves academically because they are both very bright, but, far be it for me to admonish or scold them because they aren't where "I" think they should be! They'll get there, I have no doubt, right now they are both doing the best they can, and that's all a mom can ask!
Well, said, I missed what itsren posted but, I got the gist. This is a social forum, if we can't be adult here, and express our opinions without, offending or upsetting someone, then I might as well get off here right now! I have seen and read plenty of opinions about subjects that perturb me, but, I choose not to get into it or I scroll down and keep going, I'm not going to cow down or change my opinion and or force my opinion on others, it is after all an opinion, and we all know what they are likened to!!! LOL!!
just PM me and ask if you don't know what that meant! LOL!
Also, just because they have sports out there, doesn't mean EVERY child is built or has the capacity to play them!! There ARE other pursuits, right? Don't you think that kids sports is kinda like leaning is? Not EVERY child can or should play sports, and not EVERY child learns the same.....right?? So, why as parents do we put them in a situation to be hurt?? Don't get me wrong Renee, my son was great at softball, but when it came to playing pop Warner, he was afraid of the ball! I heard some of the stuff they said, and yea, this momma bear doesn't keep her mouth shut, sorry, so, when I realized he didn't really like it and was only doing it, cause my idiot boyfriend at the time was strong arming him, I told him, you don't have to play, it doesn't matter how much money we spent on it. Now, was he a quitter? NO! He realized he was better at softball and other things! I think they should be given a chance to try to the best of their ability, but, if they truly don't like it, or find they are better at something else, they shouldn't be admonished cause they didn't "fit in" Find the strengths in your child, expose them to more then what the schools have to offer! I was terrible at sports, but guess what?? I could sing, and I could ride horses like no body's business! So, I started rodeoing! That was my sport! And I had more fun and more success there, then I ever would have had if my parents made me stick with school sports!! And although we live in rodeo country my school didn't have a high school rodeo chapter. And my parents had their own business, so it was up to my sister and I to make friends, (cause we had to go to another town to join a rodeo association) and drive our horses and butts, to JR rodeos all over the state! In this day and age there is no reason for children to be stuck in a box! We shouldn't expect our children to go with the status quot! Encourage uniqueness,OK, my daughter LOVES to read, ( as do I) and she LOVES books, I told her she should be come a librarian, and she said, "they don't make much money" I said, so... you could do what you love to do, and then you could become an editor, or a writer or a book reviewer.... Do what you LOVE to do, and you will never get bored!!! OK ...just say "good night Dick"
" Good night Dick"...... LOL!! Again my favorite peeps.....JUST MHO
