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I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.
For some people, when their situation feels or seems hopeless, it is very hard for them to not become depressed and or selfish.
Having hope makes all the difference in the world... if you can get it from your head into your heart.
I am fighting the hardest battle of my life right now. I so want to curl up in a corner some days... but I can't.
I have to show my kids that there is another way to deal with things like this when they come.
I could easily spend vast amounts of time being angry for what is happening but what would that solve besides teaching my kids how to be bitter?
Ultimately, I think life is about being content with whatever comes; secure in the knowledge of where I will end up.
I am learning the hard way that life is about quality time...
I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.
For some people, when their situation feels or seems hopeless, it is very hard for them to not become depressed and or selfish.
Having hope makes all the difference in the world... if you can get it from your head into your heart.
I am fighting the hardest battle of my life right now. I so want to curl up in a corner some days... but I can't.
I have to show my kids that there is another way to deal with things like this when they come.
I could easily spend vast amounts of time being angry for what is happening but what would that solve besides teaching my kids how to be bitter?
Ultimately, I think life is about being content with whatever comes; secure in the knowledge of where I will end up.
I am learning the hard way that life is about quality time...
