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[pettec63]

does any one else notice there are times when you are on here, and your posting and it doesn't show you on line?? or you look down at whos on here and there are people posting but they aren't on the currently viewing screen?? Kinda weird?

 

[Chicken Rustler]

Hey Cr how do you know who the guests are??

Because I see all hear all and know all.
I know everything about anything. I am the best that has ever been.
Don't believe it just ask me and I will tell ya so ! True story just made it up ! ! !

 

[OvertheHenHouse]

 



He said that they were punished as well. I am not certain that they were suspended, but he implied that they were. The principal did admit that there are two groups of students that torment Alex intentionally on a near daily basis; the two involved yesterday, and a group of popular kids that know Alex gets really irritated by certain songs, so they hum them when they walk by. The teasing really bothers me, but I don't know what the school can do to stop it. They have awareness programs and talks with the students, and yet it goes on. They now seem to try and deal with it by having the teased students go to one of the counselors when it starts. I can't see that do a lot of good, seems to me it will lead to more teasing.

Olivia is doing no better. I think I posted in November that Olivia had good grades because of her test scores, even though she turns in little homework. Well, today she brought home another progress report, this one only for homework, and she has turned almost NOTHING in. Many if not most of these assignments I know she did, I even worked with her on them and signed them with notes to the teacher. She turned NONE of it in. Last time I threatened her with Catholic School. Today she said that is her goal because 2 girls at the school torment her every day, and she dreads going there.

Why is it that my kids have such issues with being teased? What can I do to teach them that there will be difficult people no matter where they go, and they need to move on and ignore these people?

I'm frustrated. I feel like a failure as a parent right now

First and foremost, you are not a failure as a parent. Period. What these kids at school are doing is insidious. It isn't simple teasing, it's bullying - because these other kids are trying to control and manipulate your kids' behavior with their actions. Chronic, repetitive 'teasing' with the intent to harm the one being teased IS bullying.
There are a bunch of websites devoted to bullying. Here's a link to one that has a list of things you can try as a parent to 'bully proof' your kids: http://www.stopbullying.gov/parents/bully_proofing/index.html
I'm so sorry they, and you, are going through this.

 

[Chicken Rustler]

I have to share this funny moment. I'm just checking on this batch of week old chicks because one is screaming it's head off. Turns out someone pooped on him and he and everyone else in the brooder is trying to get that annoying "nonsense" off!

I guess I better help him out.

How dare they ! !

 

[pettec63]

OMG!
so because I am in constant pain, mind you it varies in pain level, it has been very hard to sleep. At one point the doc put me on Gabapenten (sp) which is for nerve pain. You have to take it at night cause it makes you really drowsy, ( it's also used for seizure control)
I don't take it very often cause when I do it takes all the next day to wake up. But, when I haven't slept well for a few days I use it. I know my husband is sick and tired of me tossing and turning and getting up constantly! So, I couldn't sleep last night I got up at 12 took some, still tossing and turning and not sleeping, Terry had to get up at 230am I got up again and took some at 3!! It worked but dang!! It's gonna take me till 3 to get moving!!!

Thing is, it does work, at least over night and for an hour after waking up, then as I get moving it wears off and I'm limping again!! Thank God I'm going to see the doc Friday!! So, if my post here have been dark, and angry that's part of it, also, going to WY was very emotional and I'm having problems picking my self up again! And I really miss my kids!! So much stuff came out about the past, and I am just so angry and sad!! And although I see a counselor, she isn't helping me, when I spoke to my son's counselor she recommended a sexual trauma counselor, cause, even tho I didn't know what was going on at the time, it still effects me, and with all that just happened, I am really struggling to get things done, cause my mind is always going back to WHY!!?? HOW can I stop him?? I just don't want this POS to hurt someone else's kids!! And I CAN'T let it go!!! Anyway, so yea, depression? yup, but, I have been on meds before I hate them! So, I'm just trying to find a way to get though this with as little meds as possible, the hip thing isn't helping either!
Anyway, so I'm sorry if I've gone off and brought the forum down!!

 

[pettec63]

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Hmm sounds like a country song!! LOL!!

 

[pettec63]

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I went to junior high with a bunch of really mean kids. I was happy when it was time to go to catholic high school.





Ya know I never go to go to Catholic school, I wanted to at one point for the same reasons, I was lucky, my kids got to go for about 3 yrs and it really was one of the best educations, when they had to go back to public school, they were both put into upper level classes because of the quality of education. Anyway, it's a personal choice for all but a porocial school of any kind I think is just a better education, BTW did you see that Wa has to go back and reacess the quality of education in the state?? I had a big issue with the I think it was called PAWs testing?? My kids had to go through this big ordeal of passing this test, so in MHO the teachers hands were tied to what they could teach so these kids could pass! What happened to just good old fashion education?? I realize that some where the standards slipped, but, is that because teachers have to worry more now about student conduct and protecting themselves?? I don't know, just a thought

 

[Zgoatlady]

He said that they were punished as well. I am not certain that they were suspended, but he implied that they were. The principal did admit that there are two groups of students that torment Alex intentionally on a near daily basis; the two involved yesterday, and a group of popular kids that know Alex gets really irritated by certain songs, so they hum them when they walk by. The teasing really bothers me, but I don't know what the school can do to stop it. They have awareness programs and talks with the students, and yet it goes on. They now seem to try and deal with it by having the teased students go to one of the counselors when it starts. I can't see that do a lot of good, seems to me it will lead to more teasing.

Olivia is doing no better. I think I posted in November that Olivia had good grades because of her test scores, even though she turns in little homework. Well, today she brought home another progress report, this one only for homework, and she has turned almost NOTHING in. Many if not most of these assignments I know she did, I even worked with her on them and signed them with notes to the teacher. She turned NONE of it in. Last time I threatened her with Catholic School. Today she said that is her goal because 2 girls at the school torment her every day, and she dreads going there.

Why is it that my kids have such issues with being teased? What can I do to teach them that there will be difficult people no matter where they go, and they need to move on and ignore these people?

I'm frustrated. I feel like a failure as a parent right now

I wonder if you contact a councilor or ask there Dr a good book for you to read so you can guide them to understanding how to handle it. Your not a bad Parent!!

 

[OvertheHenHouse]

I have to share this funny moment. I'm just checking on this batch of week old chicks because one is screaming it's head off. Turns out someone pooped on him and he and everyone else in the brooder is trying to get that annoying "nonsense" off!        I guess I better help him out. 

HA HA   LOL!  That's funny! poor chickie!!

OMG - too funny!!!

 

[Cowgirlgrace]

Don't worry girl! You have a lot to deal with you have to get out. I'm sure you haven't brought anyone down. We've all had our moments on here. I know some of these groups are few and far between but maybe a support group would help. You could get it all out with people who have been through the same thing maybe.

Hope you make some progress at the Docs on Friday! You need to be out of pain. Physical and emotional and if you could do some excercising it could help with depression.

Have fun at Women in Ag too! I was going to go but realized I probably wouldn't make it through the day let alone get out of bed after a big surprise 60th Bday bash for a friend the night before.

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OMG!
so because I am in constant pain, mind you it varies in pain level, it has been very hard to sleep. At one point the doc put me on Gabapenten (sp) which is for nerve pain. You have to take it at night cause it makes you really drowsy, ( it's also used for seizure control)
I don't take it very often cause when I do it takes all the next day to wake up. But, when I haven't slept well for a few days I use it. I know my husband is sick and tired of me tossing and turning and getting up constantly! So, I couldn't sleep last night I got up at 12 took some, still tossing and turning and not sleeping, Terry had to get up at 230am I got up again and took some at 3!! It worked but dang!! It's gonna take me till 3 to get moving!!!

Thing is, it does work, at least over night and for an hour after waking up, then as I get moving it wears off and I'm limping again!! Thank God I'm going to see the doc Friday!! So, if my post here have been dark, and angry that's part of it, also, going to WY was very emotional and I'm having problems picking my self up again! And I really miss my kids!! So much stuff came out about the past, and I am just so angry and sad!! And although I see a counselor, she isn't helping me, when I spoke to my son's counselor she recommended a sexual trauma counselor, cause, even tho I didn't know what was going on at the time, it still effects me, and with all that just happened, I am really struggling to get things done, cause my mind is always going back to WHY!!?? HOW can I stop him?? I just don't want this POS to hurt someone else's kids!! And I CAN'T let it go!!! Anyway, so yea, depression? yup, but, I have been on meds before I hate them! So, I'm just trying to find a way to get though this with as little meds as possible, the hip thing isn't helping either!
Anyway, so I'm sorry if I've gone off and brought the forum down!!