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[justbugged]

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Honey, it sounds like you have been burned. Unfortunately, I am in a situation where the DH and I are hangin' on by a string (emotionally). I have been preparing for the past (I dunno) 5+ years that he may leave me. It is scary. I hope all is well with you now, Cow girl.


I wish that this advice was taught to girls before they get to high school. We seem to learn way to late. While I have to say I still don't think that I have learned it for myself, I did manage to teach my daughter this before she has opted to have children.

 

[Ogress]

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Have them learn a field that does not change quickly so that if they take a few years off with the kids, they won't be out of date and can't get hired when they go back. Also something that is in demand no matter where you live would be good. I was earning $50K and full bennies when I quit 12 years ago. I recently needed to return to work part time, but I wanted something local. No pharma companies near North Bend, nor have I heard of any that hire PT. The one I worked for went under last year, not that I could get hired anyways; it was in Canyon Park and I've been gone too long ( I lived in Woodinville when I worked thre). I now make close to minimum wage and no benefits as a receptionist. A real eye-opener. DH refuses to buy life insurance. I would have to sell our house in a fire sale should anything happen to him as I do not make anywhere near enough to even make the payments on this place.

 

[ByN8ureHomstead]

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I used to have llamas, and never fail, I'd stay home for a week hoping to be there for the delivery, then the day I would go back to work, it would be cold and very stormy, and the llama would give birth far out in the field, as far away from the barn as possible! The babies always were fine though, they would manage to make it to the barn (sometimes with a neighbor's help) and we'd dry them off and heat them up.

Yeah....they're not even my goats. They belong to my in-laws who are my neighbors. Every year they go to Hawaii for two weeks and for some reason they breed their Boers to kid in the coldest part of the winter when they are not home! Two years ago--it was awful---about 7 does all went at once with -25 weather.

DH & I were at work all day and came home to dead, frozen to the ground, (wet) kids.

Out of 11 babies, we managed to save two and that's only because we scraped them off the ground and got them into the basement next to the wood stove.

Boers. They need to check out Kiko/New Zealand meat Goats, they are much better mothers.

 

[KMHunter]

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not until we see pics of yer nice new coop ya built all by yerself.

I was too lazy yesterday. I will get some pics soon though. I am only working today and tomorrow, so I should be able to get pics tomorrow night when I get home. I won't be home until late tonight.....it's just so not going to happen.

 

[4cats3kids1hubby2many]

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Honey, it sounds like you have been burned. Unfortunately, I am in a situation where the DH and I are hangin' on by a string (emotionally). I have been preparing for the past (I dunno) 5+ years that he may leave me. It is scary. I hope all is well with you now, Cow girl.


Very smart advice HallerLake. Your relationship does not even have to be rocky...what happens if he (or she) was to get hurt or sick?
Very smart.

 

[Chickielady]

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I wish that this advice was taught to girls before they get to high school. We seem to learn way to late. While I have to say I still don't think that I have learned it for myself, I did manage to teach my daughter this before she has opted to have children.

This is so true, I found out at 20 years old with a 1 yr old and a new born.
T and I were discussing this very sort of thing while she was here 2 days ago..we think it would be awesome, if HS kids graduated with a SKILL::: a certification for SOME trade !!!!!!
They need to take life skills, how to go to a job interveiw, how to write a resume, how to get and keep a JOB!
They need to be able to attend on the job and classroon training just like "everett college" and Puma Medical Institute" and the other private for profit "colleges".
Our kids need to graduate capable of going to WORK!!!!!!!!
Dental Asssitants, Cafeteria/Institutional Cooking, Certified Nurse Assisting, Veterinarian Tech, Certified Welding, there are many trades !!
Our kids go to school for 12 years and still cannot speak the King's English, cannot write cursive, can barely print proper English and talk like trash from San Fernando Valley, dude.
Most cannot even do their own laundry.
Alot do not have a clue how to wash dishes...(doesn't the dish washer do it ??)

 

[Chickielady]

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Me too. I shoveled about 6 wheelbarrows full of wet wood chips into my last two runs today. I'm certainly feeling it!

I have done all but 1 of mine with the nasty poopy 6" deep soggy poopy straw...shoveled it into a trailer, drove down the hill and shoveled it out of the trailer.
Drove to town & got gravel/sand...shoveled the sand in the wheel barrel, emptied it in the runs, repeat, repeat, usure is nice now though !
No more squishy cow pie-like straw...

But old ancient Chickielady is beat!!!!

 

[KMHunter]

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Have them learn a field that does not change quickly so that if they take a few years off with the kids, they won't be out of date and can't get hired when they go back. Also something that is in demand no matter where you live would be good. I was earning $50K and full bennies when I quit 12 years ago. I recently needed to return to work part time, but I wanted something local. No pharma companies near North Bend, nor have I heard of any that hire PT. The one I worked for went under last year, not that I could get hired anyways; it was in Canyon Park and I've been gone too long ( I lived in Woodinville when I worked thre). I now make close to minimum wage and no benefits as a receptionist. A real eye-opener. DH refuses to buy life insurance. I would have to sell our house in a fire sale should anything happen to him as I do not make anywhere near enough to even make the payments on this place.

I can tell you that I kind of fell into a dental assisting career. And it has been the best. I know a lot of women who have taken years off to have kids, then come back after they(the kids) are in school. I was not able to do that, because the man I was married to just wasn't reliable enough to bring in a steady income, and I had the medical benefits for me and my son, so I had to keep working. For a lot of reasons, I am not married to him any more, but when we separated, I was able to support me and my son without his help. It was tight, but doable. The medical/dental field seems to be more insulated from the downturns in the economy. I just got my hours cut back to three days a week, but that is mostly because my boss is getting on in years and needs to slow down. Just thought I would throw that out there. I totally agree with CL and everyone else, that no one should depend comepletely on another person, unless they trust that person 150%. I trust my (current) husband that much, and that is why I am ok with my hours being cut back. I wouldn't be otherwise. 4cats3kids....I am sorry you have lived with that kind of uncertainty for the last 5 years. That is no way to live. I am truly sorry.

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[4cats3kids1hubby2many]

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I wish that this advice was taught to girls before they get to high school. We seem to learn way to late. While I have to say I still don't think that I have learned it for myself, I did manage to teach my daughter this before she has opted to have children.

This is so true, I found out at 20 years old with a 1 yr old and a new born.
T and I were discussing this very sort of thing while she was here 2 days ago..we think it would be awesome, if HS kids graduated with a SKILL::: a certification for SOME trade !!!!!!
They need to take life skills, how to go to a job interveiw, how to write a resume, how to get and keep a JOB!
They need to be able to attend on the job and classroon training just like "everett college" and Puma Medical Institute" and the other private for profit "colleges".
Our kids need to graduate capable of going to WORK!!!!!!!!
Dental Asssitants, Cafeteria/Institutional Cooking, Certified Nurse Assisting, Veterinarian Tech, Certified Welding, there are many trades !!
Our kids go to school for 12 years and still cannot speak the King's English, cannot write cursive, can barely print proper English and talk like trash from San Fernando Valley, dude.
Most cannot even do their own laundry.
Alot do not have a clue how to wash dishes...(doesn't the dish washer do it ??)

Well, I agree with everythnig you guys are saying. Did you know that they are talking about no longer teaching cursive - that is what I heard.

BTW, I am a mean mom. I boys do their own laundry and knows how to (much to their distress) do dishes...by this I mean load the dishwasher, wash whatever is remaining, and wipe down the counters. My 9 yo dd has recently started on emptying dishwasher and she is expected to do her laundry. She has recently started having to seperate her nicer clothese and washing them on delicate and then hanging them up. I also limit TV. Like I said....I am a mean mom. I want my kids to leave this house with some basic living skills. I

 

[Chicken Rustler]

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Hey ya know it ain't nice to be talkin bout me when I can/will be readin it.

OK really I just kind of enjoy putting on a different side here.

And I am well educated because I know where milk and eggs come from. The grocery store right !!!!