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[Stumpfarmer]

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I chose to reply to this post because it was at this moment that my husband (you know, the guy with the full-back rebuild?) was standing in the parking lot at the Tumwater Fred Meyer's taping plastic over the back window of the Camry with the able assistance of a nice lady from WS Retirement Systems so he could drive home, slowly, the back way, after the rear window of our stupid Camry was broken out. Or broken in. Or imploded, somehow- there was glass in and out and no sign of an object big enough to break that big a piece of previously unmarred glass.

So then I got to go tarp up the car so we weren't depending on the adhesive properties of duct tape on a wet surface to keep the interior of the car from being destroyed. I HATE modern cars: there's nothing to hook things to except the active surface of the front doors, for instance, which offends every atom of my loggers-kid safety training (Wesley's Rule about six-hundred and thirty in the subsection entitled "rules pertanent to string, ropes, chain, and come-alongs": never tie anything to a latch handle) and then under the rear end (another rule about putting long thin objects where they can get tangled in the drive train).

Life would be a whole lot easier if more auto designers lived in places where everyone doesn't have a garage.

 

[cheryl98117]

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Thats sounds about right! I am quite litterally the only one in my family who doesnt drink, but for maby once per year. Everyone else its a daily habbit. Though I am no angel when it comes to drink. Ive had my fun, it just doesnt DO anything for me anymore, no apeal. It can get anoying, mainly when its my DH, but yeah I have my reasons to be quite snippy about him drinking.

I'm sure, I have an ex husband like that!! In fact, he's not to smart, he actually posted pics of him on FB passed out ect, after my son had gone to see him and told me he had quit!! yea right!!

Oh luckily for my Dh he isnt that bad. He mainly drinks beer, but ocasionally will drink harder stuff... Its when he mixes drinks such as beer and liquer, or different types of hard liquers that he gets on my nerves... My mother is the biggest pain in the rear, as she starts drinking around noon, and doesnt stop until around midnight... I worry that I will go over and she wont be with us anymore. She's on Methadone "sp?" and still drinks heavily on a daily basis... No amount of talking to her does any good, and just not going over to see her doesnt do any good iether... My Sister and I have even gone in and talked to her pain Dr. So far nothing has helped... Not sure what else to do about that.

 

[Chickielady]

Stumpfarmer~~~~~~ did someone in that parking lot break the window?
How awful...it would not just blow up by itself.
I hate vandalism...such a useless & expensive practice.

So far we have not lost power, but the generator is right there by the door, a hole in the wall with a flip door lets the cord go in.
We did get an alarm that plugs into the wall that goes off if we loose pwer....FiL gave it to us.

It just figures that we had such nice weather for so long...and as soon as I set eggs...

Well, got coops cleaned today.
It will be time to gut floor litter & replace by next week due to all the wet.
I am making a GF lasagna today.
I have no cook lasagna noodles that are awesome!
Just layer as usual & they cook in the lasagna, no need to cook them prior!

Still have the nasty sinus...thick & cough every so often.
I feel heavy in the chest every so often..like maybe it is going doqwn in the lungs...so keeping up the exercise.

Wa4HPoultryMom !!! My knee is almost back to normal...normal being 8 on a scale of 1 to 10.

I guess I have worked it back to about a 7...I can go up stairs, but crab it going down lest it folds up.

 

[Stumpfarmer]

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The thing is, it's a small isolated parking lot with no nearby retail businesses (Del's is the closest) on a 45mph road with no sidewalks, and the weather yesterday was hardly conducive to random acts of vandalism. It took place between sunset and 7pm, while there were 35mph sustained winds with gusts to 60, and it rained almost an inch during that part of the storm (he's across the street from the weather service station). It's not on a pedestrian short-cut to anywhere, and the only people who would be in the parking lot are his coworkers, who tend to stop us in public places to tell me how much they like him, how dependant they are on him, how good he is at his job... The high probability is it was a piece of blowing debris- there's no trees nearby but there's a junk yard across the street- that hit the window (rear windshield? what's the right name for it?) at a bad angle.

It does feel as if we're having a year-end clearance on bad luck, though.

 

[Cowgirlgrace]

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I'm sure, I have an ex husband like that!! In fact, he's not to smart, he actually posted pics of him on FB passed out ect, after my son had gone to see him and told me he had quit!! yea right!!

Oh luckily for my Dh he isnt that bad. He mainly drinks beer, but ocasionally will drink harder stuff... Its when he mixes drinks such as beer and liquer, or different types of hard liquers that he gets on my nerves... My mother is the biggest pain in the rear, as she starts drinking around noon, and doesnt stop until around midnight... I worry that I will go over and she wont be with us anymore. She's on Methadone "sp?" and still drinks heavily on a daily basis... No amount of talking to her does any good, and just not going over to see her doesnt do any good iether... My Sister and I have even gone in and talked to her pain Dr. So far nothing has helped... Not sure what else to do about that.

I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.

 

[Chickielady]

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Oh luckily for my Dh he isnt that bad. He mainly drinks beer, but ocasionally will drink harder stuff... Its when he mixes drinks such as beer and liquer, or different types of hard liquers that he gets on my nerves... My mother is the biggest pain in the rear, as she starts drinking around noon, and doesnt stop until around midnight... I worry that I will go over and she wont be with us anymore. She's on Methadone "sp?" and still drinks heavily on a daily basis... No amount of talking to her does any good, and just not going over to see her doesnt do any good iether... My Sister and I have even gone in and talked to her pain Dr. So far nothing has helped... Not sure what else to do about that.

I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.

Very well said!

 

[Chickielady]

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The thing is, it's a small isolated parking lot with no nearby retail businesses (Del's is the closest) on a 45mph road with no sidewalks, and the weather yesterday was hardly conducive to random acts of vandalism. It took place between sunset and 7pm, while there were 35mph sustained winds with gusts to 60, and it rained almost an inch during that part of the storm (he's across the street from the weather service station). It's not on a pedestrian short-cut to anywhere, and the only people who would be in the parking lot are his coworkers, who tend to stop us in public places to tell me how much they like him, how dependant they are on him, how good he is at his job... The high probability is it was a piece of blowing debris- there's no trees nearby but there's a junk yard across the street- that hit the window (rear windshield? what's the right name for it?) at a bad angle.

It does feel as if we're having a year-end clearance on bad luck, though.

Now that you have described the situation, perphaps it was a truck going by that threw a rock?
We have been hit hard a few times this winter with large rocks...luckily, they did not crack the windshield...so far...knock on wood!
What you described reminds me of how a lawnmower or string trimmer can toss a rock right through a window!

 

[Chickielady]

Little Girl update:

I examined the fiesty Black Java hen this morning & decided to move her to a coop full of grown pullets & took the Buff Rock Cockerel out...he was being a pill about the new addition...
Anyway, he went to the bachelor pad.
Little Girl's back feathers are about 1" long now, skin is all healed but on the greasey side due to all the triple antibiotic oinment used.
Scabs are all falling off & I bet she wants to get under her sweater & dig at them...but I will leave the sweater on for at least another week.
So, she is doing fine!

 

[Chickielady]

Well, I am gonna go clean up after the coop cleaning & then make my lasagna...y'all behave here!

 

[broodytood]

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Oh luckily for my Dh he isnt that bad. He mainly drinks beer, but ocasionally will drink harder stuff... Its when he mixes drinks such as beer and liquer, or different types of hard liquers that he gets on my nerves... My mother is the biggest pain in the rear, as she starts drinking around noon, and doesnt stop until around midnight... I worry that I will go over and she wont be with us anymore. She's on Methadone "sp?" and still drinks heavily on a daily basis... No amount of talking to her does any good, and just not going over to see her doesnt do any good iether... My Sister and I have even gone in and talked to her pain Dr. So far nothing has helped... Not sure what else to do about that.

I know the feeling. You see all the news programs and documentaries and movies of people with insurmountable difficulties and they somehow over come, rise above and come out victorious. They even show terminal people living each day to the fullest till they die. Oh, so wonderful! So you think,'those in my life should do the same'. They should embrace the life they have left or LIFE period. But the reality is, those people they feature are a very small minority. The majority and the sad reality is people with insurmountable difficulties do not overcome them. There is emotional pain, physical pain, disabilities that are painful because society shuns you. Huge things happen in peoples lives that no matter how hard they try they can't 'come out victorious'. No matter what you do to try and guide them through, find programs to help, support groups, securing pain meds and therapy, it is ultimately up to the individual. Either the pain cripples them or the inability to fit in to society cripples them, and depression sets in that they have no strength to deal with. Ultimately, many turn to alcohol to dull all. Which us support people know is not the answer, it's a one way street but who are we to judge when a loved one is done. We can't give up. You just keep on helping where ever you can to help them through and hopefully make a difference. But if not, you did the best you could. It is very painful to watch a loved ones life waste away but people make up their own minds. We just have to keep loving them. Wondering how many of these 'intervention' programs actually work. You see the shows on TV and I think it give you a false hope for your own loved one. How many people in those shows actually get through to the other side and stay there. I just know that once people get to a certain point there is not much you can do but love them and try to continue on with your own life and make some happiness for yourself. They are their own person and make their own choices. Sorry, don't want to be a downer but that JMHO.

For some people, when their situation feels or seems hopeless, it is very hard for them to not become depressed and or selfish.
Having hope makes all the difference in the world... if you can get it from your head into your heart.

I am fighting the hardest battle of my life right now. I so want to curl up in a corner some days... but I can't.
I have to show my kids that there is another way to deal with things like this when they come.
I could easily spend vast amounts of time being angry for what is happening but what would that solve besides teaching my kids how to be bitter?
Ultimately, I think life is about being content with whatever comes; secure in the knowledge of where I will end up.
I am learning the hard way that life is about quality time...