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[Ravynscroft]

Morning folks! Back to work for me today...but I don’t wanna go! I’m glad my mom is here to help with everything!
One picture for the road.

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Well done, he's adorable!!!

Hard to gauge Sally; one time she seems to be getting rid of all her birds, & the next thing I know she's getting a few more that have struck her fancy. We're still close, & I catch her on FB; about the only constant is goats. She shows up on her own threads from time to time, but usually not for very long; goats & dogs keep her hopping.

Wrong one, lol... I sent Alaskan my first 1602N bator, Alaskan named it Sally...

Speaking of water under the bridge....who here is a grudge-holder and who is a forgiver?

I can hold a grudge, but i think I'm too soft sometimes too.

Genuine mistakes are forgiven.... ignorance that can be taught is forgiven... intentional malice, sheer stupidity and fakeness or purposeful misrepresentation is not... I don't waste my time on people who can't be themselves, how can I even know if I like them or not if I don't even know who they are?

Maliciousness is completely unforgivable, no reason for that... stupidity that is willing, I have no patience for... also can't understand narrow views... not much is ever black or white, if they can't understand that then I walk away...

I am a grudge holder, my father was a grudge holder, and my grandfather was a grudge holder. It takes a lot to push me there, but once I am done with a person, I am done with them. It's not an admirable trait.

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Hurt anyone I care about and yeah, I hold a grudge... do it more than once and I will cherish that grudge to the grave... it's an ugly trait of mine, but it's me... I can't deny it nor will I hide it... but I will apologize for it to the ones it affects other than the one I hold it against...

 

[Debs Flock]

I'm more of the former. Very few people will piss me off twice

Guess that depends for me too. I try to think even some offensive people deserve a second chance. But it's bitten me in the arse before.
Runner Duck.

but seriously, how's the wagon working for you?

Ha...yep, Runner duck. The wagon is great!

unfortunately I am the same.... I am trying to learn to forgive....but it takes me YEARS to move past stuff.

The shape of my grudges : I forgive, but do not forget and do not let the person close to me in any way shape or form. I wish nothing bad for the person, and do not try to do any harm - I just want nothing to do with them. Basically they become dead to me. I agree with Mr Porky that such people are better disassociated with. (Is that a word ?)

My best guess (hope) then, is that it takes a pretty serious, let's say infraction, for you 4 to be genuinely angry enough with someone to establish & hold the grudge...?

ETA: I'm now a bit worried about upsetting any of you. I'd be very angry with myself if I ever caused ya to have a grudge against me.

 

[CapricornFarm]

Y'all continue the fun...
I was up and down last night keeping stoves going and Jesse had to have a couple of breathing treatments, croup, so I'm gonna get a nap since his momma is off today and here to take care of him.
Catch y'all later!

Another nap? How decadent!

 

[Alaskan]

The shape of my grudges : I forgive, but do not forget and do not let the person close to me in any way shape or form. I wish nothing bad for the person, and do not try to do any harm - I just want nothing to do with them. Basically they become dead to me. I agree with Mr Porky that such people are better disassociated with. (Is that a word ?)

that is me. ... I am polite... but my avoidance is great.

I have no problem with people being upfront. .. if we talk through whatever, then I can move on with zero problems. We all have issues, we all mess up and offend each other... no biggie if we discuss it and acknowledge it... try to figure out how to work around the issues... whatever

It is the people that do something that tick me off... and then they pretend it doesn't matter.... or worse yet they do something that hurts my kids (even in a small way ) , and then just move on as if it doesn't matter... even when I have said that it matters and I am upset.....

well..... the forgiveness thing. ..... hard to reach that place.

 

[perchie.girl]

Ha...yep, Runner duck. The wagon is great!





My best guess (hope) then, is that it takes a pretty serious, let's say infraction, for you 4 to be genuinely angry enough with someone to establish & hold the grudge...?

ETA: I'm now a bit worried about upsetting any of you. I'd be very angry with myself if I ever caused ya to have a grudge against me.

No worries...

 

[perchie.girl]

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[Debs Flock]

No worries...

 

[Alaskan]

ETA: I'm now a bit worried about upsetting any of you. I'd be very angry with myself if I ever caused ya to have a grudge against me.

I am shallow and easy to please.

Just compliment my kids.

But seriously, I don't think an invisible BYC person could get on my "cut them out of my life forever" list.

 

[Ravynscroft]

It is the people that do something that tick me off... and then they pretend it doesn't matter.... or worse yet they do something that hurts my kids (even in a small way ) , and then just move on as if it doesn't matter... even when I have said that it matters and I am upset.....

well..... the forgiveness thing. ..... hard to reach that place

Completely agree!!
Especially with the ones that make snarky, backhands... or are passive aggressive...

 

[Alaskan]

Completely agree!!
Especially with the ones that make snarky, backhands... or are passive aggressive...

Yep, I HATE that!

Tell me that you hate me and why... and I am happy! Truly.