What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[klf73]

my husband hates birds in general. it started for my daughter who was 12 at the time. She went to a sleepover and called asking for eggs so we could incubate. We didn't even have a bator, but she figured since *mom mentioned getting chickens someday* she wanted to get some. I told her to call her father and ask him. Of course he said yes to her, she never asks for anything. So we got bit by the bug and after having some bad hatches and getting very bummed, dh convinced me to get some more eggs, a dozen. So I filled the bator this time

. I told him they were shipped and most wouldn't hatch anyway. I just kept the bator running and was addicted, he just shook his head. I was happy and that made him happy. He, in the past year, went from not being able to stand chickens to a man that I catch throwing scratch out just so he can watch them. They grew on him. Every time he goes out now they follow him, it's funny because he keeps saying *since when did I become the pied piper*. I told him *when you started feeding them hun*

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[PineBurrowPeeps]

Okay, OP has chickens. Woman, go buy the chick when you come back. Even though I ask my husband before I do major purchases, a $2 chick is not a major purchase IMO, especially if you already have chickens.
This is madness.

 

[Frizzled]

I must be the luckiest guy on BYC. I have never had to convince my wife to get any type of animal. We have full size and mini horses. mini donkey, 7 dogs, 1 cat, and 30 bantams which she bought for me.

 

[Andora]

I have found (thank you marriage counseling!) that when my DH just says no to something, he really has reasons behind it...but sometimes they are stupid reasons, sometimes they are valid ones. It helps if I specifically ask him his reasoning and then discuss it without making him feel defensive. Basically act like I understand where he's coming from and how he is feeling. Then I can usually persuade him to get whatever it is he's opposed to, or he has convinced me why it was a bad idea in the first place.

That being said, if my DD wanted a $2 chick and we already had the chickens, I would tell him to STFU and just by the chick. He's just being petty! And you can pacify him later, once your DS is sound asleep.

I have found there are very few things that cannot be remedied with...certain things. Am I allowed to post about this on BYC? Just fill in the blank, lol.

 

[Up-the-Creek]

My DH was pretty much the same way at first. When the baby chicks came from the hatchery he wouldn't even touch one or even as much look at one. It has been over a year now, and yes he built my chicken house, and did what he had to do to make me happy. BUT now he loves the chickens. I have been talking about thinning out my flock, but he says no. So all in all it takes nothing but time. He will come around and he will learn to love them, especially when they start laying those fresh yummy eggs. My mom always told me the best way to a mans heart is through his stomach. Good luck!

 

[horsejody]

My DH says he doesn't want anymore, but he always crows at them when they are in the brooder, so the little roos will have a proper male influence. Also, he complains that the adult chickens eat all of the flowers in his planters. If Rodney the roo or most of the hens are caught eating flowers, they get sprayed with the garden hose. However, I have noticed that when his favorite, Cher, does it, he pretends not to notice. She gets a free pass on the begonias. I guess she's special.

 

[Msbear]

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That is just hilarious!! Thanks for sharing

My dad will leave the bottom level of tomatoes on the vine for sweet pickins throughout the season. It's amazing how hard men try to be but, when you catch them in the act, it's really sweet.

 

[a2ms4chickens]

I thought you were talking about my DH there, for a minute.

He says he has nothing to do with the chickens, and for the 1st year he kept saying no more chickens. We only had 9 at the time.
My DS and I did not include him in our discussions or decisions about our chickens last year, but he would hear us and have to put his 2 cents in. And when we needed something fixed, we would ask to borrow his tools. Well, curiosity would get the better of him, and he decided he would do a better job, so he would take over.

He did enclose the chicken pen, and make the feeder. He also made a separate pen and will be finishing that within the next few weeks. He also advised that we get rid of the big rooster we had because our hens are running around without feathers on their backs. He also fixed the mister for their pen yesterday. He has found us a basket to use for collecting the eggs. He's even run to the feed store to get their food.

This year, when we hatched chicks, he didn't say anything. Guess he figured we weren't going to listen to him anyway.

I've been married to my DH for 22 years, so I know what works for getting things done. I just let him keep thinking he has nothing to do with the chickens, lol.

Good luck, and hopefully he'll come around to your way of thinking.

Angie

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

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That's too funny! "A proper male influence" HA!

 

[AHappychick]

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omg poodle chickens that is to funny!