So y'all know I am not a big sharer of personal stuff. But I have got to ask this because it's something that is peeving me. So 5 years ago we moved 1500 miles away from the family because financially we were going to drown if we didn't. We absolutely love my hubby's family. It has been in fact quite hard being away from them but you do what you gotta do. So when it comes to family members and medical emergencies I have to ask what you think is an appropriate amount of time to wait when either mom or dad are taken to the hospital by ambulance before we are called and informed of a problem. Today we were called at 5pm and told that dad was taken by ambulance yesterday early morning with symptoms of a possible stroke. Last month mom went by ambulance for shortness of breath and the emt's equipement wasn't working well so they had to take her worried about heart attack and we didn't know till a few days later. My poor sil has had alot of issues in the last couple years. She's only 42. But we don't find out for days and three visits to the ER and that is if I call her and get worried because I can't get ahold of her. Now the halloween before last my hubby had to have gall bladder surgery. He was in alot of pain and he went to the dr and when they told him he needed surgery I called his mom right away and let them know what was happening and when it would take place. So back to dad. While I don't expect a call right away I think that if dad went to the hospital by ambulance in the early am my hubby should be called before the night is over if dad is still in the hospital. Oh and I should mention that a few months ago I called my sil to chat and she tried to cut the call short because they had just got back from the funeral. I said "what funeral" thinking some friend of hers had passed away. Nope it was a beloved uncle who had passed and it took over a week for them to have the funeral for him so it wasn't like someone couldn't have called. Now I feel like a complete jerk because my daughter had her wisdom teeth taken out surgically and I had a cold and allergies that turned to asthma and and allergy shot that kicked me straight into hell at the same time and I didn't call them when this went down. But I had told them that she was going to have the procedure done during Christmas break because we couldn't let it ruin her band commitments and college auditions. Yet there's a difference between a scheduled procedure and the ambulance coming for a stroke. So what would have been a reasonable time to call and tell my hubby his father was in the hospital due to a possible stroke. Because I am ticked that nobody thought to call him. He is the man (and I do emphasize MAN) who broke down and totally blubbered to me last New Years that he terribly missed his mom and dad and convinced me to trek across country this summer to see them no matter the expense for the sake of his sanity. Oh and he planned another visit just himself "for business purposes" this January while we were out there.