What do you do when a freind of 20 yrs dumps you for a new one?

[urban dreamer]

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Boy, Am I learning that right now too. I have finally cut ties to my BF since the 9th grade. Its the hardest thing I have ever done and I am still having problems letting him go. Its so hard, but separation I believe will be the best thing for both of us in the long run. I wish you all the best luck in the world!

You will always have your friends on the internet!!!

 

[lizareny]

Why? What's up with you? Might as well vent and deal, DO IT.

Teasing ;-)

Spill your guts, yeah?


Oh dear.......i said 'vent'..............wth booooooo

 

[PineappleMama]

Guess she was never in Girl Scouts...

"Make new friends but keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold"

Instead of having two awesome friends, she only has one...

And she's proven just what a crappy friend she is by abandoning the one who's stood by her for over 20 years.

I'd be very hesitant about letting her back in.... once burned, twice shy...

Boy I'm just full of cliches today...

 

[Three Cedars Silkies]

Do you think it is possible that this new "friend" is more than a friend to her...and she doesn't want you to know that? I may be waaay off base here...you didn't mention anything about a spouse....

 

[lizareny]

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(screams!) Oh Lordy, that would be hilarious! And no, that had not crossed my mind at all, heheee.

 

[Randy]

Same thing happened to me with one of my school friends. K-12th grade we were best friends. Even after graduation when he went off to college we would still hang out and get together when we could. He finished colleged and got engaged and I never heard from him again. No falling out or anything like that. He just disappeared. Didn't even get an invite to his wedding. I found out it wasn't just me though. He hasn't talked to any of the old gang. The only thing I could figure out is that his wife came from money and he was ashamed of his old friends.

Actually most of my old friends have moved off now. Still keep in touch by email and text but it's not like having someone to actually go do stuff with. Oh well, all these chickens take up most of my time anyway.

 

[cassie]

I wouldn't do anything. A friendship is not a friendship if it is one sided. Don't look back.

 

[Mattemma]

I totally agree with just moving on from this one sided relationship.Even a friendship of a year or month is difficult to move on from as they can be so intense. Like love...you will often find another,but it will never be the same experience.

Wishing you happy days ahead!

 

[lizareny]

All true.

 

[lovesduckies]

i have a friend now. we've been friend for like 16 years and we are 22. friends since kindergarden. we were together all through jr high till i moved 2 cities away. she never called. it was like calling 2 cities away was long distance and she never called. we got back in contadt again and she calls me her best friend.. but EVERYONE is her best friend. i had a talk with her and told her that everyone is her best friend and it makes me feel unspecial. really it is. if everyone is your best friend then really you have no best friend. so she calls me "best" now.. it's annoying.. and she calls another friend of hers "sister". that does feel good but i am the bigger person and i don't let her know it bothers me and i just act normal. i mean really who cares??? i've had TONS of friends walk out on me. another who claimed i was her best friend abandoned me after my ex beat me up, that i was the ONE time i needed a friend and no one was there for me. she was also another one who said everyone was her best friend and she'd call me sister and i was like lol okay is that why you blow me off for val and uhh the other girl.. i can't remember her name.. oh yeah it was jill. anyway.. there were a bunch of times she made plans with me and ditched me for them. i detached myself from that one after i told her she was an aweful friend for leaving me in my time of need even though i was always there for her when her stupid controlling boyfriend was acting up AND cheating on her and she stayed..

sooo really it's up to you.. in my opinion i would cut the cords, but when it comes to me i am just so tired of people doing this to me over AND over AND over again. idk if you are having this problem with people.. good friends are hard to find there are few who do find good friends.

i didn't start to feel better till i met duckyfromoz and she's honestly my very very goof friend and the only friend i call my best friend. she has such a big heart and i love her and i've never even met her.