Today I received an email from the Mother of one of my DD's classmate's. In the email she "Needed me to tell my DD to leave her son alone."
She went on to give all kinds of examples slanted to make my DD sound like she was tormenting this child relentlessly. And to cap it off made the statement, "Please tell DD to leave "Son" alone. He is a good, kind, sweet, boy."
Ok, now I didn't grow up in a bubble. I know how kids are. I also know that these 2 have a long history all year of irritating each other. I know that DD comes home several times a week complaining of "Son" bothering her. I told DD to tell him to "leave her alone" and to stay away from him.
I wrote back to the Mother stating that it was not so one sided, they were bothering each other, tattling on each other, and that "Son" does the same thing to DD that she does to him. That I told DD not to speak to, look at, make faces at, or otherwise bother "Son" any longer, would she please tell him to do the same. I also told her I would not have my DD vilified a she was good and kind and sweet, too.
I know that neither of these 2 are blameless. I've seen them in action. They feed off of each other. He irritates her, she irritates him back.
I've spoken to DD to make sure she steers clear of him, ignoring when he makes faces at her, etc. That it takes 2 to cause a conflict. If she doesn't take the bait, the trap isn't sprung (and vice versa).
But why is it that some parents make out like their child is perfect, that their child could never be the one to act inappropriately. That it is always solely the "fault" of the other child. I find that to be supremely irritating, and it is a good explanation for why so few children act in a civil manner when they grow up.
Ok there's my rant.
She went on to give all kinds of examples slanted to make my DD sound like she was tormenting this child relentlessly. And to cap it off made the statement, "Please tell DD to leave "Son" alone. He is a good, kind, sweet, boy."
Ok, now I didn't grow up in a bubble. I know how kids are. I also know that these 2 have a long history all year of irritating each other. I know that DD comes home several times a week complaining of "Son" bothering her. I told DD to tell him to "leave her alone" and to stay away from him.
I wrote back to the Mother stating that it was not so one sided, they were bothering each other, tattling on each other, and that "Son" does the same thing to DD that she does to him. That I told DD not to speak to, look at, make faces at, or otherwise bother "Son" any longer, would she please tell him to do the same. I also told her I would not have my DD vilified a she was good and kind and sweet, too.
I know that neither of these 2 are blameless. I've seen them in action. They feed off of each other. He irritates her, she irritates him back.
I've spoken to DD to make sure she steers clear of him, ignoring when he makes faces at her, etc. That it takes 2 to cause a conflict. If she doesn't take the bait, the trap isn't sprung (and vice versa).
But why is it that some parents make out like their child is perfect, that their child could never be the one to act inappropriately. That it is always solely the "fault" of the other child. I find that to be supremely irritating, and it is a good explanation for why so few children act in a civil manner when they grow up.
Ok there's my rant.
