What is wrong with parents today?

[water4two]

How parents can honestly think that their own child does no wrong is beyond me! But I see this over and over. I have young school age children and when I hear from one of them “so and so did this”, I ask what do you do in the situation? Are there bullies? Yes, but kids need to learn how to deal with difficult personalities. What are these kids going to do when they are in college and mommy can’t talk to the other kid’s mommy for not playing nice?
The mother that contacted you sounds like a family member of mine that believes her kids are perfect and other kids are causing them to do wrong. They are not at fault for their actions.
Good Luck! I understand your pain!

 

[The Chicken Lady]

Sounds like it might be smart for you both to get the kids together, with all parents in attendance, and let them talk about their behavior with all the parents laying down some rules and consequences. I'm sure it's distracting both them and others from their learning at school.

 

[country lady]

When my older son was about 12, a mother called and asked if she could come over. She had her son with her and explained that my son was pushing him around. I called my son in and asked him, which he said, "well, she should tell HIM not to blow a whistle in my ear." As it turned out the boy was doing it to all the kids at the bus stop. I didn't know what my son was doing and neither did she. She was quite surprised that her son would do such a thing. I guess that's why if one of us came home complaining about someone at school the first thing out of my mother's mouth was , "Well, what did you do," which annoyed me to no end.

 

[Katy]

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ROFLMAO!! You guys crack me up!

That was the first thought that popped into my head too!

It's nothing new tho....my kids are 33, 30 and 27....it was the same way when they were that age. There always seemed to be a couple of moms who felt like their kids were perfect and innocent and they had to fight their kids' battle for them. I always thought that it was better for everyone if the kids settled it one their own.

 

[Katy]

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LOL....that's what I did with my kids....ticked them off too!

 

[insiderart]

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This cracked me up! We have this conversation a lot. And usually where there's smoke there's fire. Here's how the conversation goes... "So, what did you do to him/her?", "nothing", "Well that doesn't make any sense, try again.", "Well I just.... ". You know any sentence that starts with "well I just.." is finally getting down to it LOL!

Now I'm not saying that there aren't instances where kids are bullied. I have seen it. And there are children that are just mean for no reason.

But in this particular case it takes 2 to tango.

 

[country lady]

AND you cracked me up! My gosh, everything you said came out of my mother's mouth--DID YOU KNOW HER! lau

 

[PurpleChicken]

I think you should go kick the other parents a**. It won't help the
situation but you'll feel better.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

I only read the first OP post so IDK what has been said since then but my take is:

There are LOTS of bullies out there today. It is becoming a big problem and the majority of the schools do nothing about it. It is very awful for a child to be bullied in school!! It even has a rise in suicides from children due to this. It is a horrible thing for a child to go through. I am very involved with my DDs school and softball teams. I see alot of bullying going on and then in front of parents, these kids act like angels but then they are talking of 'slapping her in the nose' and stuff like that as soon as they don't think anyone is listening! Kids that are great students as far as academics and all but are so mean to other kids.

As a matter of fact, I am working on a program for our local school to have a bully program to start up to help with this situation.

If it were me, I would have called, not written, the other parent and discussed it to figure out how to get your kids to get along. Let them tell me their side and how they feel then I would discuss what I thought about that and talked to my child to get their side of the story and work WITH the other parent in figuring it out. Maybe sit down with both kids and sets of parents to have a discussion on the matter....that sometimes helps the children realize things they might not have.

It is something that is very serious and should always be delt with in a mature and caring manner IMO.


Good luck with these two kiddos =-)
Let me say too that I didn't direct any of this to you as if I think your kid is some bully

I just went off into lecturing LOL This is an important matter to me because I see so much of it around here.

 

[Southernbelle]

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I think PC needs a time out in a nice, quiet corner. (or a padded room

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