What the heck??

[redhen]

Glad she didnt do that to you then...

 

[saddina]

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I'm not on FB, so don't know about how the accounts work, but what Sarah said was my first thought, too.

Same thoguht here as well. When i left mr saddi the 1st and began dating, we kept it all quiet untill we were sure we wanted to "come out" as a couple. Alot of overlapping friends, also I don't at all keep in contact with myex's families, even though there is nothing negative, we've both moved on.

 

[zippitydooda]

I deactivated my FB account for the summer.... they do not have a "delete" feature. They save every bit of info you ever upload and all you have to do to get back on is sign in. While my account was deactivated all the pictures that were profile were still able to be viewed. People couldn't post on my wall or read previous posts but they could still search & find me. When they did it appeared as though we were not friends. The "add as friend" button wasn't there but they couldn't go any further into my wall or other pictures.

I got tired of the time I was WASTING listening to gossip and decided to go out into the real world and live my life. My college aged DD just went back to school, so I reactivated it to stalk her and see what she's up to, LOL. Other than that, I stay off of FB.

Don't fret too much about what goes on in FB as it is NOT real life..... if you really want to talk to your SIL, pick up the phone and invite her over. Maybe she is waiting for you to extend the olive branch.....

 

[shelleyd2008]

Well that's not possible (inviting her over) since she lives in Texas. About the only way we 'talk' is on the computer because she works crazy hours and it's near impossible to catch her.

 

[zippitydooda]

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Yeah, that WOULD be a little difficult....but no worries.... just keep trying to stay in touch. Sometimes just making the effort lets the person know you care.

How long has your brother been gone?

 

[shelleyd2008]

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Yeah, that WOULD be a little difficult....but no worries.... just keep trying to stay in touch. Sometimes just making the effort lets the person know you care.

How long has your brother been gone?

May was 2 years....car accident...

 

[zippitydooda]

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Yeah, that WOULD be a little difficult....but no worries.... just keep trying to stay in touch. Sometimes just making the effort lets the person know you care.

How long has your brother been gone?

May was 2 years....car accident...

My sincere condolences to you and your family for the sudden loss of your brother. It must still be quite painful. Did he and your SIL have children together? I would want to stay on good terms with her if they did, simply to be able to stay in touch with the children.

My father died over 2 years ago (he had a long, drawn out illness) and I STILL sometimes cry from missing him. It was 2 years & 2 months when I had finally let go of all the emotions and had a crying meltdown. One day I was having trouble dealing with a situation at work and I grabbed the phone and started dialing to call him to ask for his advice..... WHAT?!?!?! was I doing??? I really started to cry because that was the first time it really hit me I would NEVER EVER be able to talk to him again. I still get teary eyed thinking about it.

Maybe your SIL and you could get closer if you wrote letters? I know some people pull away when they are grieving, and some cling. Sounds like she has made her life really busy so she doesn't have to "feel" her loss.

Anyhow, don't worry about the FB junk.... just do your best to stay connected.