What to do? Hubby doesn't want all 5!

[gryeyes]

Sweetie, I've had 3 husbands. The first two times I did everything I could to keep my spouse happy, did everything HIS way, conceded to his wishes. Husband #1 was the "breadwinner" of the two of us; I was going to college. Miserable life. Husband #2 was head of the household because our church TOLD us he was. Another miserable marriage. Husband #3 liked me for my spunk and independence for a few years. I did what I wanted to, but cleared it with him first. And we did a lot of concessions for various things. But he was passive-aggressive and 240 lbs of pout is not attractive. Oh well, that one didn't last, either.

I don't have a DH or any partner now. I have the dogs, cats, chickens and ducks I want.

Seriously, TWO chicks are too much? If you really must get rid of the chicks because that's your life, I'll take 'em. But come on, keep 'em. They won't eat hardly any much more, certainly won't take any extra work to keep, and you only need 8 more square feet of coop space for 'em. Bet you already have that....

Have him justify every thing HE'S interested in, hobbies, etc. to YOU; see how he likes it. Marriage is a cooperative, not a dictatorship.

 

[math ace]

Check this out . . . . .

Dh told me this past weekend - - - "you have enough birds and don't need to be thinking about hatching anymore if somebody goes broody."

Tonight Dh tells me - - - " you gonna need to order some fill dirt if you plan on breeding those Marans".

I am sorrrrryyyy, but did I just get mixed signals ? ? ? ?

I love Dh and he does help me feed up every night - - - I have the pot belly pigs, the hens, and in a separate pen are the bittys.
Oh did I mention there is a CAT in the house that he is HIGHLY allegeric to ? ? ?

He really is an animal person and this makes me happy - - - so he indulges me.
Sometimes, I have to reassure him that I am still in control and have not gone chicken CRAZZYYYY.

 

[Parkers*momma]

Awww this sounds so familiar. What started out as the Easter Bunny bringing our daughter 2 lil chicks grew to 5...he wasn't thrilled. Then it grew to 12...boy he really wasn't happy. Those 12 grew to 25 and her first hatch this past week with two more broodies sitting and a pair of Ducks that just happened to follow us home (well they were riding in the backseat of the SUV so technically they were behind us). Daisy Duck is setting on 18 eggs.

Yep, he wasn't happy at all with each new arrival but guess who was out there with the camera today taking pictures of the peeps....yep my hubby!

Before our animal loving daughter, we had a 14 year old dog. Now we have a dog, a siamese cat, a parakeet, an Amazon parrot, a bunny, a BUNCH of chickens, a pair of ducks, a tank of fish and soon hopefully a pygmy goat as we both fell in love with them at the fair.

Bottom line...he might pout, moan, and grumble but it's a disease I tell ya! Watching your children's smiling faces, hearing their excitement when they talk about them, sharing in the fun of chores as a family will win him over. If not, just remind him they are teeny tiny lil chickens at least you aren't dragging home elephants 2 at a time. Chickens don't eat as much, take much room and their poo is lil compared to elephant dung!

 

[dreamwallaby]

I agree, to a degree, with what the previous posters have said, However, a marriage is about BOTH of you. So we need more info. Was he against the chickens to begin with and then you discussed and compromised on 3 and then YOU decided on 2 more without any discussion? or does he have some other real reasons for his concern such as space or maybe legalities of chicken keeping in your neighborhood. If this isn't about control (because if it is, then I 100% agree with the others) and there is a real reason why he doesn't want 5, then I think you should discuss with him why you think 5 is good and hear him out too.

 

[kmwright]

Good God, in this life this is one man who plans to be annoyed a LOT! Sucks to be him.

This is true!

Wow, I came back to this thread thinking I would find someone to say "I get that, just get rid of them" and instead, I'm all fired up now and want to keep them all! I didn't think there was a huge difference between 3 and 5. It's a little cramped and loud right now since they are in the garage, but once I get them outside, nobody will even notice! I have penned in area in the back that's approximately 30 square feet or so. Is that enough for 5?

I think he's mostly annoyed because I didn't run it by him, I just came home with them. But, whatever. His hobby is music. He goes to the record store all the time to trade stuff in and get new stuff and always goes over by about $25.00. I spent $4.99 on each chick.

Go figure.

I'll keep you updated. I want to keep the peace, but not at the expense of something I enjoy. You know??​

 

[kmwright]

Stacy-

There is no real reason for getting this number. We can't have more than 5, though, so this is it. He was okay with me getting some, I brought home 3 and that was okay. I just up and brought home 2 more and I think that upset him since I never said anything. I just did it.

This is a man who grew up with NO pets. Nice parents, nice house, perfectly manicured lawn, etc.

I grew up with 2 dogs, 6 cats, 2 pet rats, 3 parakeets, a bunny, and my Dad ALMOST brought home a goat.

So now, we have 2 dogs (an 80 lb lab/boxer who eats our lawn and a chihuahua) 5 chicks, and fish. He's just not used to it all but I LOVE animals and I've always wanted chickens!!

 

[mama2chickies]

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It is the odd number he is balking at along with the fact you didn't get him one, go back to the store and get him his very own chick.

Just don't tell him that some joker from Maine with the handle of theFox told you to get him his very own fuzzy butt

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LOVE IT!!!

could not have said it better myself you made my night! BRAVO!

 

[geebs]

Simple... get rid of hubby and keep all the chickies...

 

[Parkers*momma]

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[kmwright]

Simple... get rid of hubby and keep all the chickies...

That would be SO much easier. ::sigh::​