What to do with the baby chicks?

[fishin-nole]

Put them in the farm and garden section on CL. Move, dealing with family on money matters is always a bad idea. Even if you do buy it she will always have something to say about how Dad wouldn't do that, or allow that.

 

[megnchicks]

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Hahaha, that is what DH said. The funny part is we do pay her rent but she is still storing her dad's car in the garage with strict instruction to not touch or put anything any where near it because if anything happened to it she would be devistated. I guess when she was 16 she helped her dad pick out the car and she is soooo emotionally attached it to. Ugh.....

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That is the kicker. It WAS on the market for almpst a year before we moved out here and it didn't sale at all. When we moved in I knew why it didn't sale besides the fact she was asking too much and there are about 8 identical houses in this neighborhood that are for sale. The house was dirty, the carpet needed to be cleaned, and the walls were just awful. They were white but had hand prints on them and stains.

I am so ready just to walk out on this house because hse acts like she is doing us a favor but letting us stay here. Umm, she was barely making do with the two mortgages she was trying to cover before we came and took over this mortgage.

Ok, trying not to vent. I am going to check out CL. However, these babies are not moving untill after they are hatched and a little bit older. She can kiss my bum if she doesn't like it. The chicks are getting bigger in their shell and I can hear them moving around and the eggs moving in the bator, it is kinda cute.

 

[HHandbasket]

I am sorry to hear about this and sorry you have to get rid of your chooks. Before getting rid of them, though, start looking for someplace else to live. The chickens are the least of your problems with your SIL and MIL. I mean, in realistic terms, do you really think getting rid of your chickens is going to make a lick of difference in the things they say and how they treat you? They sound like my family (which is why I love them dearly from 120 miles away).

Hang in there and try to find someplace else to live. Getting rid of your chickens isn't going to make your SIL stop talking smack or complaining about you and your DH living in her house. Just get out of the house, let her find another renter and see how she likes DEM apples.

 

[just2rosey]

Don't you just love family.

Remember that out buildings and fencing add property value, as long as you are zone agricultural (A-1), if it is well built it will add resale value, helpful info for your discussion coming up. Luckily your hatch is close to Easter, every one is shopping for chicks right now, so they should be easy to sell if it comes to that. There are poultry swaps frequently here in VA, look on the Pet Chickens of Va website. I am a member on there, it will give you local swap info, so you can go to one near you to sell the chicks if neccessary. http://petchickensofvirginia.com/group/forums/index.php

Living in Virginia I can attest the the fact that taking down tress is part of living around here, but the in-laws should understand that as well. I think you are right, it is an emotionally charged issue for your SIL, grief can make you less than reasonable, and can last a long time. I hope you can work things out. Good luck.

 

[mtngrl812]

keep the chicks and move out. Money and family NEVER mix especially when it deals with a parents estate. You will pay too much money for the house out of compassion and you will pay dearly in emotion and heartache trying to buy it. This is a bad deal all the way around for all of you. There will be hard feelings for life over this deal, and with family it is just not worth it. She is still holding onto her dad and that house and car are all she has. She isn't ready to let go of it and even if you get it into escrow she is gonna cause delays and problems which will only cause more anger between you all.
Keep the chicks and move.... it may be hard right now but it will benefit you all in the long run.... and tell her why; she is not ready to sell (no matter how much she denies it) and it is going to cause problems. She needs to sell it some unbiased unknown that will treat it like real estate and her as a seller and SIL.
Don't let this material thing ruin family relations, no matter what a PITA the family is.....

 

[youngbiddy]

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[cackydoodledoo]

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If you buy this house you are a glutten for punishment. Even when it's yours free and clear she will still nag you about any alterations or improvements you make. You will spend the rest of your life avoiding having her over for fear of what she might say about what you've done!! And that's if you can even get to closing and actually buy the house. She sounds like the type of person who will have a bunch of stipulations put in the contract. Do yourself a favor and find somewhere else to move. Preferably far away from the drama queens!!!!!

 

[tia]

It can be a difficult situation when you rent from family, or when you work for family. Good luck with that one.

 

[galanie]

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If you buy this house you are a glutten for punishment. Even when it's yours free and clear she will still nag you about any alterations or improvements you make. You will spend the rest of your life avoiding having her over for fear of what she might say about what you've done!! And that's if you can even get to closing and actually buy the house. She sounds like the type of person who will have a bunch of stipulations put in the contract. Do yourself a favor and find somewhere else to move. Preferably far away from the drama queens!!!!!

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[cackydoodledoo]

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I should have added earlier to never mix family and money!!! I know first hand that it nevers works out. I cosigned a mortgage with my mother to "help" her out and the house is fixing to go into foreclosure because she stopped paying the mortgage. Grrrrrrrrrrr.... sometimes I think we would be better off without any family at all!!