What Was Your WORST Mother's Day Ever?

[EweSheep]

Hugs to all of you! And so sorry for the losses of your mother and grandmothers who passed on.

For the first time of my 46 years, my sister and I was feeling rejected by our mother yesterday. Tried to make sense of it but since her hospitalization on Christmas Day two years ago, my mom have been avoiding the holidays, taking off when we were coming to celebrate the holidays with her, un attending the events, nasty mouthed about everything on the holidays and this one took the cake. My sis called our Dad to let him know that we were planning on the holiday with mom in the afternoon. Well, she left Dad as soon as she found out by going to her sister in law's cookout! MOM, we MADE plans for you to celebrate but why run off????!!!! Last year, she was home by suprise and she didn't appreciate it but appreciated that we stayed there for the afternoon.

For the life of me, I do not know what's wrong with this woman! I am guessing no one ever waited for her to get out of the hospital over the holidays to open presents..she didn't get out of the hospital for two days after Xmas. Boy, this has been gone long enough and why she is being a sourpuss about the whole thing.

Father's Day is coming up soon, and she told us sometime ago, she is not planning on going there either!

What in the H E double L is going on with her???????!!!!!! I know my sis said, don't let it bother you and move on. Those lovely flowers and cards........what a waste not seeing her enjoying her surprises.

 

[Sjisty]

My worst Mother's Day was in 2000. It was the first Mother's Day after my son died. Even now, 11 years later, Mother's Day is still a little sad. I still have my mother and a wonderful daughter, but there will always be that "hole" in my heart.

 

[sheaviance1]

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Have you asked her? It very well could be because she was not missed at Christmas (in her mind). You know how it is when you get yourself all worked up over something in your mind. She could have felt scared and lonely, and like no one cared. That would be a deep hurt, and hard to get over.

If I still had my Mom, I would go the day before a holiday, by myself, and find out what's going on and try to heal the relationship.

 

[sheaviance1]

By the way, EweSheep, hugs to you too. I hate that feeling that you have already lost yours, and she is still with you. I've been there before, but that is a whole 'nother story.

 

[EweSheep]

I have asked her, so has my father and all the rest of the family.

Her comments were blunt "I don't want to mess with the holidays. I don't want the stress. I am tired of it all. I want nothing to do with it. And I do not want to come so don't ask me again!" Nothing but negative responses. On New Years, she would not celebrate my sister's birthday and we told her we are taking care of everything, all she needs to do is to come and enjoy the pizza party with us. She didn't come. My sister was hurt. If Mom would have said I'm in pain or I don't feel well, that would have been perfectly acceptable. After all she is 65 years old.

Dad gave up on her trying to please her but he has a life, by doing a long project for my sister, redoing the bathroom and kitchen. He is not the type that would stay home all the time at her beck and call and sit around. He is trying to keep active as much as he can, he will be 70.

 

[EweSheep]

I forgot to add this part, some of us family members did go and visit her at the hospital at Christmas Day and the days after. Doctors told us she needed rest and quiet time during her stay. I know Mom was the "cornerstone" of all our celebrations, she loved the parties and boy, she can outdo anyone with her fabulous cooking. She loved doing it. Now, not any more. Good thing we all can remember her for what she "used" to be.

 

[chicmom]

Well, I'm usually a sunny, happy person, BUT Mother's Day always seems to be a disappointment for me. You always say "Oh, just call me and wish me a Happy Mom's Day!" But, in the back of my mind, I'm always hoping that just ONE of my four kids would buy me a little something small.....even maybe a flower from Wal-Mart. I guess that's selfish on my part.

My oldest son actually asked me if I bought myself something nice for Mother's Day. I was like, "Um.....what did you say?" Of course the kids will never know that I felt a little bummed, but that's what a good mom does, I guess.....Keeps her mouth shut.

Sooooo, I had the party for my mom, made all the food, did all the work. As usual. Another one of those holidays I'd just like to skip.

The member who said "Expect nothing, and you won't be disappointed is right on the button!" I agree. And I try that every year.

On the positive note, I did hear from each one of my kids, so that was good. And my youngest spent the whole day with me, and he's 17 years old, so that's a rarity in itself. I really enjoyed that! That, I guess was my gift! A teenager who actually wanted to spend time with me! I LOVED IT!

Hmmmm.....talked myself into feeling better about Mother's Day already! LOL

 

[JulieNKC]

My worst mothers day was in 2007, after my daughter died. Didn't really feel like celebrating being a mom when one of my little girls was gone. My best would be this year. My oldset, who is 6 was so excited about mothers day (she's in kindergarten and they were talking about it there). She went out all on her own and picked me some flowers. I about cried, I have such a sweet little girl.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Bd as some of these mother';s days sound - and my sympathies to you all




Still sounds like that Heifer had the worst mothers day ever......

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

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OK GOOD mothers teach there kids a thing or two by saying ,"Look you little wretches would it kill you to show some kindness toward your mother??" Bottling up resentment isn't good for you or them. I am not a fan of mothers day, but time to speak up if your feelings are hurt. Ask them on their birthdays if they bought themselves something. BTW THAT is when you should get gifts. The day you became a mom and labored ?? Yeah, the party should be for YOU!