What would you do in this situation?

[Chickerdoodle13]

You guys give the best advice, so I figured I'd throw this scenario out there as well. There is this guy who goes to our college who I met briefly freshmen year. Since then he has developed a very large crush on me, even though I have never shown any interest to him. I always try to be pleasant to people and sometimes that gives others (especially the WRONG type!) the wrong idea. The past years I never really had an issue with him, because I only saw him passing in the hallways or around living areas. However, he has turned out to be a very creepy (mostly harmless, but I wouldn't trust him) guy, and he is constantly asking me to "hang" out with him. He even went so far as to ask me one time if I would be his girlfriend. I told him I was not interested and I walked away. He still has not gotten the hint.

Unfortunately this semester, I ended up in a class with him, and I now have to see him four times a week. He began sitting next to me in class and not only is he quite strange, but he also smells. I'm about ready to pull my hair out! He is rude, egotistical, and annoying! I really like my seat in that class because it is in the front and in the middle, but I'm about ready to just move (IF I can find another seat, that is). The friday before valentine's day he hands me a box of chocolates and a card, and I admit it took me so off guard, I didn't know what to say. I should not have accepted it, but he walked away before I could hand it back. Today in lab (yes, I have LAB with him too! Ugh!) he said hello and I thought that would be it. However, he decided to poke me in the back when he walked by my station. By the time I turned around to say knock it off, he'd be gone.

So what should I do in this situation? I really don't like confrontations and I don't want to make a big scene, but his annoyances are really starting to get to me. I do not like him at all and really the only reason he likes me is because he is so desperate for a girlfriend. I feel like this whole situation is so juvenile and people have told me just to tell him I'm not interested, but that goes in one ear and out the other. He's not acting dangerously or threatening to me in any way, he's just creepy.

Thanks for reading through this whole thing. Sometimes I love college, and sometimes I can't wait to leave! LOL

 

[Boyd]

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Ahhhhhhhhhhh when young love is in the air. I remember this younger gal in my senior chemestry class. Young, sassy, beautiful and loved chickens... but I digress...



The only type of hint you can give him is to be VERY blunt. Confront and be blunt. Have friends and witnesses just in case he's a true nut job and not just entranced with the most wonderful 21 year old lady in Jersey.

 

[purr]

Repeat after me
"you ever touch me again and your going to walk away with a bloody stump, GOT IT?,GOOD"

 

[MagsC]

Not a guy but those before me are right. You have to be BLUNT about it.

 

[heyeddah]

Get a really big, cheap fake engagement ring and only wear it to science.
No, just kidding. Be careful this doesn't turn into a stalking story that we read about on the news. Let him know you want to focus on school and have no interest in personal relationships. If it gets too creepy, seek out your academic advisor and transfer. Stick to packs of friends when he is around. Good luck.

 

[Julie08]

how about Im going to rip off your big fat lips (or whatever description fits them) and use them to kiss my bum.

I like that line but in this case the bloody stump works even better

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

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Ahhhhhhhhhhh when young love is in the air. I remember this younger gal in my senior chemestry class. Young, sassy, beautiful and loved chickens... but I digress...



The only type of hint you can give him is to be VERY blunt. Confront and be blunt. Have friends and witnesses just in case he's a true nut job and not just entranced with the most wonderful 21 year old lady in Jersey.

Boyd you crack me up!

Of course hindsight is 20/20, but I should have told him I wasn't interested in a relationship/him on friday when he gave me the v-day chocolates. I was so shocked I couldn't say much of anything! LOL

I don't think he's dangerous, he's just creepy. Luckily he's transferring next semester so I won't have to worry about him. Just gotta get through this semester!

 

[LarryPQ]

Ummm... Boyd is that creepy guy, so take his advice.

 

[mom'sfolly]

I think you have to be rude and confrontational in this situation. Polite and nice are just going to get you more of the same. Unfortunately, this could escalate. A forceful, "I'm not interested, please leave me alone", might help. Every time he bumps or touches you, say clearly, and loudly "don't touch me". I would also approach the professor of this class and the lab proctor. Tell them that this guy is making you uncomfortable, won't leave you alone, and won't take no for an answer. They will have to respond, as what he is doing has crossed the line to harassment. They can help you, and should help you.

Don't smile, don't say hello, walk away when he approaches and if he touches you, go with the bloody stump comment. Say "no" frequently, forcefully and without any other interpretation. No, leave me alone, I'm not interested, don't touch me, repeated as neccesary. If it continues, report it to someone.

 

[horsejody]

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That reminds me of the time I was in a military training school. I was in the Marines, and the guy was in the Air Force. He was a PITA just like the OP is describing. One day he poked me in the side. I said, "Don't touch me again." He immediately did it again. I punched him. It was the punch of a lifetime. I used an upper cut right under the chin. He never saw it coming. It ended up knocking him right over the top of the table that was behind him, and he ended up sprawled out on the table behind it. It was during a class break. The instructor ( a Navy guy) saw it and just said, "I assume that the Airman will be leaving you alone now."