WHAT YA GOT SWAP Chat Thread

[silkymom1986]

My doctor said if I have 2 more miscarriages she wants to do the surgery, hopefully that doesn't happen but if it does then yea I will probably have the surgery to correct it.

 

[sonew123]

Im so sorry Paris...I know how hard that is;( hugs.....




I updated my swap items

 

[crossgirl]

Oh, Paris, sweetie, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I hope you have success next go round.

 

[2hot2chicken]

silkymom1986
I know what you are going through...... This is a long story but I hope it will maybe help offer you hope.
This is my story

I have a horn shaped uterus that curves into my back because of a tumor on my spleen I had growing up and removed when I was 15yrs old. I was told I would probably never get pregnant or at leased know I was pregnant because I would miscarry before I even missed my period. Well I had 2 miscarriages when I was a teenager. Then my fiance and I got pregnant just before I graduated when I was 17 (I was graduating a year early). I carried that pregnancy to 12 weeks and then I lost my mom to leukemia the week of graduation..... 2 weeks later at my appointment I found out I lost the baby to probably from stress. I lost all hope of ever having kids. Went into a spiral and left home and my fiance and moved in with a cousin a few hours away. I got into heavy drinking and hard drugs and partying every night, it was a small town and that was about all there was for a teenager to do there.

I met a guy and we dated for a while and continued the drug use for a couple years. I turned 21 and decided we needed a break from everything the drugs and the life. We went to stay with some family for a while, my boyfriend and I. After being clean for about 3 months I got a surprise and found out I was pregnant. I didn't tell anyone not even my boyfriend. I figured I would loose the baby anyway anytime so what was the point...... Besides we were not even home and I hadn't seen an ob just an nurse who did the blood test to confirm it. Weeks went by and I got morning sickness and no obvious bleeding so we went home. I was 18 weeks when I finally went to the doctors and they did an ulrasound and there was a baby there. I still didn't believe it through the whole pregnancy.

I didn't even want to know the sex of the baby and I did everything to not get attached because I was so afraid I would loose that 1 to. I went into labor early at 24 weeks and spent 3 days in the hospital and the rest of my pregnancy on bed rest at my aunts during the day while my boyfriend was at work, so I wasn't alone just in case it happened again. I made it to 37 weeks and went into labor on my own again so they let it go. Good thing to because I delivered a 7lb 9 oz healthy little girl. over the next 2 years I had 2 more miscarrages, 1 at 8 weeks and 1 at 10 weeks. 2 years after our daughter was born it was about the same thing only my boyfriend and I had just seperated when I found out I was pregnant. He got back into drugs and I wanted nothing to do with it! I had a reason to live and live well now, our daughter. He couldn't stay clean so I took our daughter and left to find out a few weeks later I was pregnant again......

This time was worse because I was living on the couch at my grandparents house with no $ and nowhere else to go. I was pregnant and knew I couldn't work if I was going to have any chance of keeping it...... I was diagnosed with Mono and was put on immediate bed rest on the couch at my grandparents..... Mono often causes miscarrage in pregnant women. Well long story short I carried almost full term and we decided to induce to control delivery so there was no complications. My daughter was born at 38 weeks and weighted 8lbs 1 oz.
A year later I met my husband and as far as he is concerned he is my girls dad..... They don't have any contact with their dad. Last time I saw him a couple years ago he was still using meth.
I always hoped my DH and me would be able to have 1 more child. My husband doesn't have any kids of his own. He says there is no difference and my girls are his girls to but I never wanted him to regret being with me and not being able to have anymore kids of his own.....

3 years ago now I was diagnosed with cervical pre-cancer cells in stage 2 and there was 1 spot. within a year it progressed to 3 spots and stage 4 which means its in the process of turning to cancer. I was going in for my appointment to talk to my doctor about what to expect with a historectomy and get that scheduled because that was my only option at that point to prevent it from becoming cancer and potentially spreading. At the appointment she did a pregnancy test among other things just as routine. It came back positive ! Talk about shock for the both of us!

She did an ultrasound and there was nothing there to be seen........ I had an internal ultrasound a couple days later and nothing....... My hormones were up and down and all over the place and I had to go in every 2 days for blood work for about 3 months. At 9 weeks we finally found the baby on the ultrasound! the horn curving into my back was folded over and hiding the baby. I quite my great job and stayed home on bed rest. My doctor told me that with all the medicine in the world there was little chance I would be able to keep the pregnancy going. Usually there lost between 3-12 weeks with my condition...... I prayed everyday that god would let me keep my little miracle. I got so sick I lost a ton of weight then gained a ton of water weight and ballooned up from the bed rest. But it was all worth it. I carried my baby girl to 36 weeks and went into labor on my own in the middle of the night.

We got the 2 older girls up and my husband sent them over the back fence to the neighbors while I took a shower! Then as we were getting into the car my contractions were 5 minutes apart. I saw a family of raccoons in our driveway and I remembered I forgot to lockup the chicken coop the night before!!! So I made my DH run back through the house and out back to lock up the coop and run.... 2 of the girls were out early (it was 5 am by then) so he had to chase them back in and they don't listen to him at all! 20 minutes later he came back to the car and now my contractions were 2 minutes apart and we were 10 minutes from the hospital! My DH ran every red light and we made it in 5 minutes.....

They checked me in and barely got me into the room and I had to push! She was coming and there wasn't even a doctor in the room yet! She was born less than 15 minutes after arriving at the hospital! The only child, grandchild and great grandchild my grandma missed the delivery of, she got there right after Danielle was born...... I had surgery about an hour after delivery and had the historectomy..... And I cried and still cry sometimes both because god saw fit to allow me to have 3 beautiful healthy happy miracle daughters and because I really wish I could have been able to have 1 more child, a son......

I know its really hard and there are times when you want to give up. I did for a time and didn't care if I lived or died, but it will happen when the time is right....... Keep your chin up and let nature happen as it would. I found that when I was not trying or even thinking about it is when I got pregnant...... I am telling you this to try to offer up hope... There is a time for everything to happen and it can and will. It just may not be when you want it to. Keep your chin up until it does

 

[BHep]

To you both !!

 

[silkymom1986]

Wow, your story truely is inspiring to me.

And it does give me hope. Thank you so much for sharing it, I've really been down but as I was reading your story I really do have hope now. Everyone has been telling me that it would happen when the time was right, and that God had a plan, but hearing it from someone who has been there and been through all that you have makes me think for the first time there is still hope. Your so lucky to have 3 sweet miracles in your life!

 

[sonew123]

        [COLOR=006400]To you both !![/COLOR]

X2 wow big fat hugs!

 

[Ray_n_Debi]

Have some bad news, I told you all the good news about a month ago that DH and I were expecting, well we had a miscarriage recently. It's been very upsetting, when they did the ultrasound the doctor found out I have a bicornuate uterus which means it's heart shaped instead of oval and can make pregnancy more high risk for me. We are going to keep trying but prayers would be appreciated.

I am so sorry to hear this. I know how hard this is for you.

 

[gabrielle1976]

My computer is smarter then me . I swear I hear it snickering when Im trying to figure stuff out

 

[Ray_n_Debi]

silkymom1986
I know what you are going through...... This is a long story but I hope it will maybe help offer you hope.
This is my story

I have a horn shaped uterus that curves into my back because of a tumor on my spleen I had growing up and removed when I was 15yrs old. I was told I would probably never get pregnant or at leased know I was pregnant because I would miscarry before I even missed my period. Well I had 2 miscarriages when I was a teenager. Then my fiance and I got pregnant just before I graduated when I was 17 (I was graduating a year early). I carried that pregnancy to 12 weeks and then I lost my mom to leukemia the week of graduation..... 2 weeks later at my appointment I found out I lost the baby to probably from stress. I lost all hope of ever having kids. Went into a spiral and left home and my fiance and moved in with a cousin a few hours away. I got into heavy drinking and hard drugs and partying every night, it was a small town and that was about all there was for a teenager to do there.

I met a guy and we dated for a while and continued the drug use for a couple years. I turned 21 and decided we needed a break from everything the drugs and the life. We went to stay with some family for a while, my boyfriend and I. After being clean for about 3 months I got a surprise and found out I was pregnant. I didn't tell anyone not even my boyfriend. I figured I would loose the baby anyway anytime so what was the point...... Besides we were not even home and I hadn't seen an ob just an nurse who did the blood test to confirm it. Weeks went by and I got morning sickness and no obvious bleeding so we went home. I was 18 weeks when I finally went to the doctors and they did an ulrasound and there was a baby there. I still didn't believe it through the whole pregnancy.

I didn't even want to know the sex of the baby and I did everything to not get attached because I was so afraid I would loose that 1 to. I went into labor early at 24 weeks and spent 3 days in the hospital and the rest of my pregnancy on bed rest at my aunts during the day while my boyfriend was at work, so I wasn't alone just in case it happened again. I made it to 37 weeks and went into labor on my own again so they let it go. Good thing to because I delivered a 7lb 9 oz healthy little girl. over the next 2 years I had 2 more miscarrages, 1 at 8 weeks and 1 at 10 weeks. 2 years after our daughter was born it was about the same thing only my boyfriend and I had just seperated when I found out I was pregnant. He got back into drugs and I wanted nothing to do with it! I had a reason to live and live well now, our daughter. He couldn't stay clean so I took our daughter and left to find out a few weeks later I was pregnant again......

This time was worse because I was living on the couch at my grandparents house with no $ and nowhere else to go. I was pregnant and knew I couldn't work if I was going to have any chance of keeping it...... I was diagnosed with Mono and was put on immediate bed rest on the couch at my grandparents..... Mono often causes miscarrage in pregnant women. Well long story short I carried almost full term and we decided to induce to control delivery so there was no complications. My daughter was born at 38 weeks and weighted 8lbs 1 oz.
A year later I met my husband and as far as he is concerned he is my girls dad..... They don't have any contact with their dad. Last time I saw him a couple years ago he was still using meth.
I always hoped my DH and me would be able to have 1 more child. My husband doesn't have any kids of his own. He says there is no difference and my girls are his girls to but I never wanted him to regret being with me and not being able to have anymore kids of his own.....

3 years ago now I was diagnosed with cervical pre-cancer cells in stage 2 and there was 1 spot. within a year it progressed to 3 spots and stage 4 which means its in the process of turning to cancer. I was going in for my appointment to talk to my doctor about what to expect with a historectomy and get that scheduled because that was my only option at that point to prevent it from becoming cancer and potentially spreading. At the appointment she did a pregnancy test among other things just as routine. It came back positive ! Talk about shock for the both of us!

She did an ultrasound and there was nothing there to be seen........ I had an internal ultrasound a couple days later and nothing....... My hormones were up and down and all over the place and I had to go in every 2 days for blood work for about 3 months. At 9 weeks we finally found the baby on the ultrasound! the horn curving into my back was folded over and hiding the baby. I quite my great job and stayed home on bed rest. My doctor told me that with all the medicine in the world there was little chance I would be able to keep the pregnancy going. Usually there lost between 3-12 weeks with my condition...... I prayed everyday that god would let me keep my little miracle. I got so sick I lost a ton of weight then gained a ton of water weight and ballooned up from the bed rest. But it was all worth it. I carried my baby girl to 36 weeks and went into labor on my own in the middle of the night.

We got the 2 older girls up and my husband sent them over the back fence to the neighbors while I took a shower! Then as we were getting into the car my contractions were 5 minutes apart. I saw a family of raccoons in our driveway and I remembered I forgot to lockup the chicken coop the night before!!! So I made my DH run back through the house and out back to lock up the coop and run.... 2 of the girls were out early (it was 5 am by then) so he had to chase them back in and they don't listen to him at all! 20 minutes later he came back to the car and now my contractions were 2 minutes apart and we were 10 minutes from the hospital! My DH ran every red light and we made it in 5 minutes.....

They checked me in and barely got me into the room and I had to push! She was coming and there wasn't even a doctor in the room yet! She was born less than 15 minutes after arriving at the hospital! The only child, grandchild and great grandchild my grandma missed the delivery of, she got there right after Danielle was born...... I had surgery about an hour after delivery and had the historectomy..... And I cried and still cry sometimes both because god saw fit to allow me to have 3 beautiful healthy happy miracle daughters and because I really wish I could have been able to have 1 more child, a son......

I know its really hard and there are times when you want to give up. I did for a time and didn't care if I lived or died, but it will happen when the time is right....... Keep your chin up and let nature happen as it would. I found that when I was not trying or even thinking about it is when I got pregnant...... I am telling you this to try to offer up hope... There is a time for everything to happen and it can and will. It just may not be when you want it to. Keep your chin up until it does

Thank you for sharing such a wonderful story with us!