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What's on your Christmas list?
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I'm with Matthew....I've got everything a person could want! For Christmas I usually ask God to show me someone to help and every year it seems he sends me someone that could use some assistance. That is my favorite Christmas present to myself....to know that someone has a good Christmas and God is watching over us and sees to our needs.
I do something similar every year. It is more challenging, but I work out the details so that it's totally anonymous. No one can find out who did it. That way I keep my ego out of it and ensures my motives are not complicated by personal expectations. I do the same thing on my birthday each year. This year is going to be a challenge though, since I brought my 85 year old parents in to live with me and their needs are pretty high. My dad is in a light coma and Hospice is coming in to advise/assist me. My mom has dementia and has had a series of health crises and hospitalizations over the last 5 months. She is almost helpless and I have to do everything for her. I can't leave the house unless I have a caregiver with them. So, I haven't been out in the "real world" very much in the past few months to find a person or family that needs help. Both time and money are in short supply with me right now, so this is going to be a real challenge. I'm trusting that God will put the right opportunity in front of me that I can do. As for me, I would just like a little freedom from responsibility for a while.....and some sleep! I'm so glad I have Silkies, they give me a few minutes to put my life aside and just pet/feed/snuggle sweet little babies. What a relief that is after a very stressful day.
Sweety, you are doing it!!! What you are doing each day for your parents qualifies as your Christmas gift only you are doing it each and every day, God Bless your warm heart! My Christmas prayer will be that YOU are someone's Christmas project this year and you get some help...even if it's just for a couple of hours at a time to relieve your caregiver stress~and help with your financial stress.
If I lived closer I know just who would be my Christmas blessing this year!
May God send you peaceful moments, the best kind of sleep and some money to help you.
I'm with Matthew....I've got everything a person could want! For Christmas I usually ask God to show me someone to help and every year it seems he sends me someone that could use some assistance. That is my favorite Christmas present to myself....to know that someone has a good Christmas and God is watching over us and sees to our needs.
I do something similar every year. It is more challenging, but I work out the details so that it's totally anonymous. No one can find out who did it. That way I keep my ego out of it and ensures my motives are not complicated by personal expectations. I do the same thing on my birthday each year. This year is going to be a challenge though, since I brought my 85 year old parents in to live with me and their needs are pretty high. My dad is in a light coma and Hospice is coming in to advise/assist me. My mom has dementia and has had a series of health crises and hospitalizations over the last 5 months. She is almost helpless and I have to do everything for her. I can't leave the house unless I have a caregiver with them. So, I haven't been out in the "real world" very much in the past few months to find a person or family that needs help. Both time and money are in short supply with me right now, so this is going to be a real challenge. I'm trusting that God will put the right opportunity in front of me that I can do. As for me, I would just like a little freedom from responsibility for a while.....and some sleep! I'm so glad I have Silkies, they give me a few minutes to put my life aside and just pet/feed/snuggle sweet little babies. What a relief that is after a very stressful day.
Sweety, you are doing it!!! What you are doing each day for your parents qualifies as your Christmas gift only you are doing it each and every day, God Bless your warm heart! My Christmas prayer will be that YOU are someone's Christmas project this year and you get some help...even if it's just for a couple of hours at a time to relieve your caregiver stress~and help with your financial stress.
If I lived closer I know just who would be my Christmas blessing this year!
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My apologies. I didn't realize that word was not allowed here.
My apologies. I didn't realize that word was not allowed here.
Nothing. Since my dad died in 1993 and my mom died in 1999, there is no joy of celebrating Christmas. My husband is usually "too busy" to help with Christmas, or even to buy me a gift. Most Christmas mornings I wake up to "I didn't have time to get you anything" or "I didn't know what to get you" (not that he asked what I might like or want).
He will not go to church with me, and he does not like for me to go to church, because that means I would need some money to put in the offering plate.
He hates for me to buy what few gifts I try to get for what little bit of family I have left. My brother and his wife, and their three daughters. My cousin and my aunt. He resents any money spent at all on gifts; no matter how small nor how cheap.
No, Christmas is a very sad time around here. There is no Christmas list for me.
He will not go to church with me, and he does not like for me to go to church, because that means I would need some money to put in the offering plate.
He hates for me to buy what few gifts I try to get for what little bit of family I have left. My brother and his wife, and their three daughters. My cousin and my aunt. He resents any money spent at all on gifts; no matter how small nor how cheap.
No, Christmas is a very sad time around here. There is no Christmas list for me.
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You need to get yourself a Christmas gift....leave and don't look back. Free yourself from this bondage and start a new, happier life before your life is gone. I'm not saying you have to divorce, but you surely don't have to live there.
Don't let anyone else dictate if you are happy or if you are not.
Don't let anyone else dictate if you are happy or if you are not.
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Thank you so much for such a sweet message! I needed it this morning. Just the kindness of your heartfelt words made me cry. May God bless you for your encouragement today.
Thank you so much for such a sweet message! I needed it this morning. Just the kindness of your heartfelt words made me cry. May God bless you for your encouragement today.
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I am so sorry your situation is painful at a time most people are feeling merry. I lived (divorced him 10 years ago)with a man who was obsessed with money. Money is a harsh master and unmerciful 'god' to serve. There was nothing I could do to change how he felt about money and spending, so I had to put aside little bits of money all year long where it wouldn't be missed so I could buy what I wanted for Christmas/Birthdays, etc. Sometimes I didn't tell him that I had bought anything at all, I just shipped it out before he came home. It was easier than a confrontation I would not win. My life was easier, I gifted who I pleased and it worked for me. I never give people advice to "leave the jerk" because relationships are complicated and there are many layers to consider. However, in my case I have been given a blessing of freedom and independence by being single. I am now free to be who I really am and do what I want to do without worrying about how someone else will feel about it. I didn't realize how much of my true self had been supressed and how imprisoned my spirit was until I was freed from him. May God bless you as you shoulder these burdens and get through a difficult time of the year.
I am so sorry your situation is painful at a time most people are feeling merry. I lived (divorced him 10 years ago)with a man who was obsessed with money. Money is a harsh master and unmerciful 'god' to serve. There was nothing I could do to change how he felt about money and spending, so I had to put aside little bits of money all year long where it wouldn't be missed so I could buy what I wanted for Christmas/Birthdays, etc. Sometimes I didn't tell him that I had bought anything at all, I just shipped it out before he came home. It was easier than a confrontation I would not win. My life was easier, I gifted who I pleased and it worked for me. I never give people advice to "leave the jerk" because relationships are complicated and there are many layers to consider. However, in my case I have been given a blessing of freedom and independence by being single. I am now free to be who I really am and do what I want to do without worrying about how someone else will feel about it. I didn't realize how much of my true self had been supressed and how imprisoned my spirit was until I was freed from him. May God bless you as you shoulder these burdens and get through a difficult time of the year.
A healthy Grand Daughter due Dec. 16, 2010. Maybe Dec 10 would be nice since that's my B-day, even better the 24th. Plus spending time with the family, in-laws included.
What's on your Christmas list?
Zip, zilch, nada.
Zip, zilch, nada.
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Zip, zilch, nada.
Do we have a HUMBUG or just contentment?
Zip, zilch, nada.
Do we have a HUMBUG or just contentment?
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