I know totally what you mean about offensive.
DH's bud is a vegetarian... that's cool, I don't like some foods and you don't judge me for it, why would I judge you... that's pretty much my attitude. What bugs me is when I make pasta, NO MEAT, and I offer him some he still asks "Does it have meat in it?"... Hello, I've known you for over 12 years, I know you don't eat meat, and yet you still think after all this time that I would try to purposely give you something that would make you sick... whether that's chemical or in your head, either way I do NOT feed people things that will make them sick. If I knew someone was allergic to peanuts I wouldn't even offer them a PB cookie... GAH I find that frustrating.
So, I can understand totally what you mean... he's basically saying that you're trying to poison him, just like DH's bud... it's highly insulting. Saying something mean about someone's cooking, recipe gone wrong, that's rude enough... but actually accusing someone (if passively) of trying to hurt you... beyond rude.
Of course most the time A doesn't eat with us... if he happens to be over and I happen to have made a no meat meal than I'll offer... not very common... and he's not so bad about it since I said "Do you really think after 12 years I don't know that by now or that I'd purposely try to poison you?!?!"... he finally got the hint that I didn't appreciate it, but it took a few tries. But his main reason for coming over isn't dinner... so that's different from your situation. Why would the guy accept an invite to dinner knowing he would just sit there and be insulting (and hungry) the whole time? That's even weirder than A is.
I can't talk, it too me something like 10 years of the insult before I finally got fed up and said anything... but in your shoes I'd have to say something... maybe he doesn't realize just how rude he's being? If that's the case then educating him might stop it... the comments at least. If however he's perfectly aware that he's being a jerk then he'll just keep right on being a jerk... but at least you'll have your answer and can then stop bothering to invite him.
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Google says that's a 1931 Huxley novel?? London 2540ad... haven't read that, but I don't get how it's connected. Is there another Brave New World book? Or movie??
DH's bud is a vegetarian... that's cool, I don't like some foods and you don't judge me for it, why would I judge you... that's pretty much my attitude. What bugs me is when I make pasta, NO MEAT, and I offer him some he still asks "Does it have meat in it?"... Hello, I've known you for over 12 years, I know you don't eat meat, and yet you still think after all this time that I would try to purposely give you something that would make you sick... whether that's chemical or in your head, either way I do NOT feed people things that will make them sick. If I knew someone was allergic to peanuts I wouldn't even offer them a PB cookie... GAH I find that frustrating.
So, I can understand totally what you mean... he's basically saying that you're trying to poison him, just like DH's bud... it's highly insulting. Saying something mean about someone's cooking, recipe gone wrong, that's rude enough... but actually accusing someone (if passively) of trying to hurt you... beyond rude.
Of course most the time A doesn't eat with us... if he happens to be over and I happen to have made a no meat meal than I'll offer... not very common... and he's not so bad about it since I said "Do you really think after 12 years I don't know that by now or that I'd purposely try to poison you?!?!"... he finally got the hint that I didn't appreciate it, but it took a few tries. But his main reason for coming over isn't dinner... so that's different from your situation. Why would the guy accept an invite to dinner knowing he would just sit there and be insulting (and hungry) the whole time? That's even weirder than A is.
I can't talk, it too me something like 10 years of the insult before I finally got fed up and said anything... but in your shoes I'd have to say something... maybe he doesn't realize just how rude he's being? If that's the case then educating him might stop it... the comments at least. If however he's perfectly aware that he's being a jerk then he'll just keep right on being a jerk... but at least you'll have your answer and can then stop bothering to invite him.
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Google says that's a 1931 Huxley novel?? London 2540ad... haven't read that, but I don't get how it's connected. Is there another Brave New World book? Or movie??
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