Who else hates being addressed as Ms

[twentynine]

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Dilusional?

Hardly. He has "seen the elephant"!

Offer a door for one of them harridans, render a polite salutation Ms, Miss, Madam, Madame, or "Mornin' M'am" you'll not only get a snear, but you liable to get the boys busted too! The next day, same woman, she'll stand infront of the door waiting, and snear because you didn't offer the door and a mornin' ma'm.

In my part of the southI was taught that ma'm was short for mademoisell, not madam.

I was also taught that madam or madame was a term of respect shown an elder, wise woman. Such as a grandmother. Never was I taught that it meant the proprietor of a brothel.

I guess I was raised in a much sheltered home. Truly, in my own opinion a salutation such as Mr, Sir, Ms, Miss, Ma'm, Mrs all denote a term of respect. Why not accept it just for what it is.

Offering the door is a polite jesture.

Offering a "mornin' ma'm" is a polite jesture.

Ok, you might get a few women, maybe A LOT of women who do that. But I'm a woman, and I don't. I promise. So next time you see me, go ahead and open the door. You'll get a polite thanks.

Well you caught me, with my shades up. Posted one of them zingers, when instantly I thought better of it. Edited it less than 1 minute later and remove all comments made in poor judgement.

Em you must be quick draw MacGraw!

And the response to your Thank you will be a Your Welcome.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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Ok, you might get a few women, maybe A LOT of women who do that. But I'm a woman, and I don't. I promise. So next time you see me, go ahead and open the door. You'll get a polite thanks.

Well you caught me, with my shades up. Posted one of them zingers, when instantly I thought better of it. Edited it less than 1 minute later and remove all comments made in poor judgement.

Em you must be quick draw MacGraw!

And the response to your Thank you will be a Your Welcome.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

I became a commissioned AF Officer at the same time I graduated college at age 20. If I was NOT called ma'am, I became seriously upset (unless I was the person of lower rank). Ma'am and sir are a matter of respect, not age.

 

[Dunkopf]

In the military it's respect. In civilian life it depends on local customs. Down south they consider it disrespectful not to use it. Other parts of the country not so much. I always liked the Army NCO response to being called Sir by a cruit. "Don't call me Sir. I work for a living"

 

[redhen]

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See, this just makes me giggle. Because you're either kidding, or you really are that delusional.

No Not kidding at all, but still just making light of the whole dilema. When people address me as............ Sir, or Mr, or Dude or anything else I just realize they are just trying to be polite regardless, and I acknowledge that in kind.
What it boils down to is I am simply trying to be polite so if they have an issue with how I address them I really don't care one bit, I will call them what I feel comfortable with, And let them deal with their little ego problems.


I agree, Al...
If i say ma'am..(and am trying to be polite and respectful)...and you have a problem with it...
well... yep..its YOUR problem, and honestly, you have more issues (i.e. mental) to worry about then the word Ma'am...or Miss..or Ms... or whatever....
Get a grip.. and stop skipping your meds...

So..what it REALLY boils down to is: If someone is simply trying to be polite and respectful.... dont be weenie... be thankful that in todays day and age, SOMEONE is still trying to be respectful and polite to you....
Just my opinion, as usual..

 

[Lazy J Farms Feed & Hay]

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No Not kidding at all, but still just making light of the whole dilema. When people address me as............ Sir, or Mr, or Dude or anything else I just realize they are just trying to be polite regardless, and I acknowledge that in kind.
What it boils down to is I am simply trying to be polite so if they have an issue with how I address them I really don't care one bit, I will call them what I feel comfortable with, And let them deal with their little ego problems.


I agree, Al...
If i say ma'am..(and am trying to be polite and respectful)...and you have a problem with it...
well... yep..its YOUR problem, and honestly, you have more issues (i.e. mental) to worry about then the word Ma'am...or Miss..or Ms... or whatever....
Get a grip.. and stop skipping your meds...

So..what it REALLY boils down to is: If someone is simply trying to be polite and respectful.... dont be weenie... be thankful that in todays day and age, SOMEONE is still trying to be respectful and polite to you....
Just my opinion, as usual..

I can't believe someone would get their panties in a wad over another peron's attempt to show respect. Would the complainers on this thread prefer to be addressed in the Hip-Hop vernacular of "Female Dog" or "Ho"?

 

[Royd]

Actually, it's all a thing of proper ettiquette, which seems to be sadly lacking, in this day and age, and especially. of written ettiquette, in days of old.

I remember getting the yearly letter from my grandmother, addressed to me, as Master....I always thought it was pretty cool.

As for me, if I am adressing an unknown woman, and simply want to get her attention, I say Ma'am, regardless of age....It is simply showing deference to the gender, which should make any woman smile.

Beats Hey, or Hey, You.

 

[Peaches Lee]

I don't mind being called "miss". I just got called "hon" the other day. The only place it does irk me is on mail. I really don't feel that Ms or Miss needs to be in place before your name--I don't understand or like having your marital status or lack thereof on your mail, it's too personal to me I guess.

This whole thread reminds me of a scene in Monty Python and The Holy Grail. King Arthur is coming up behind a peasant and says "Excuse me, old woman" and the person turns around and says "MAN"!! King Arthur then says "Man, sorry".

Then they get into a dispute about how King Arthur should have addressed the peasant man...

 

[Spookwriter]

Almost silly, but it bugs me to be called only by my last name.
Bugs me enough that people don't do it more that once.

As in they call me MR. Tibbs.

Call me by my first name, call me Sir, call me Mr. but do not address
me by my surname.

As to how I personally address a woman of any age...politely.
If it is someone I know very well, "My Lady" is sometimes used.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

I don't like being called "Sweetie" or "Sugar" by strangers. I know it's a Southern thing. I know they mean it to be nice. But it annoys me. I still respond politely, and have never asked anyone not to address me in this way, but it annoys me. Mostly because they have no idea if I'm sweet or sugary.