Every day I see people complaining about their teenagers doing crazy things and acting out, or moving back home, no work ethic, no responsibility, and the list could go on and on. I just wish my mom (parents) could be proud of me for plain ole normal things! I moved out at 19, married at 20, bought a house at 22......but is my mom proud of me for being a respnosible, independent, capable adult? I have never had to ask them to bail me out of tough situations. They've never had to get me from jail or anything bad like that. I didn't even have to ask them for money when I was unemployed - I just budgeted the money that we did have. She wants me to live her dream for my life, and I want to do what I want to do. I think that's the problem. Nothing that I want to do is good enough. My whole growing up life I was herded in the direction that she wanted me to go. Now that I'm on my own I'm trying to figure out just exactly what it is that I want to do for a living. My mom and I don't talk often, but those once in a while phone calls to catch up, ya know. Mom: So are you thinking about finding another job? (first of all, it took me 11 long months to find this one I don't know why I should be in any big hurry to leave it, but I do understand that I probably won't be delivering pizza for my entire working career) Me: I was thinking about going to school to be an EMT or something, work on ambulences helping people. Mom: Why would you want to do that??? They don't make enough money for what they do. .... Maybe, just MAYBE it's not about the money, it MIGHT have something to do with what I want to do with my life. It's not just this, other careers that I have thought about mom has shot down with her negativity. Basically if I'm not sitting in a plushy corner office, it's not good enough. Me? The idea of being stuck in an office all day every day scares me to death. That is NOT how I want to spend my life. It's MY life mom. Be happy that I'm independent responsible hard working drug free arrest free even mostly drama free!!!