Why is it so hard?

[Boyd]

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Hugs are appropriate whenever however whatever! I hug everyone, including strangers. There is nothing more harmless than a genuine hug and the way it bares your soul....... Sort of like how the tradition of shaking hands or tipping your hat started.

 

[SarahFair]

Im even a little iffy about the whole hand shaking thing..

I just figure 'why do they want a hug from me? why do they wanna shake my hand?'

IDK my dad is a big hand shaker and its come to suprise me a lot of people my age (early 20s) are big hand shakers. I just like a little smile and gentle nod of the head.

I went to shake someones hand once and they looked at me all weird. Guess it kinda scared me off.

 

[WriterofWords]

The one thing about my son that I love the most, one of the things anway lol,, no matter where we are, or who is around, at school, at home, at the store, anywhere, he will hug me and tell me that he loves me, and he doesn't try and be quiet or not be noticed. That makes me very proud of him and it just fills my heart everytime. I had a student last year who got used to seeing my son come into my class and he always hugged me and told me he loved in front of them, this student went home, hugged his dad and told him he loved him. His dad emailed me to tell me thank you, because his son told him that if my son could do that in front of the class then he could do it with his dad too.
Steven and I have a thing with "I love you more", it's our favorite way of saying it.

 

[australorpchick]

My mother is a human-leech.

I was lucky to have a very loving, affectionate mother growing up. However, now when she latches on, I just walk to my dad and tell her to reattach to him.

My kids and I, well, we have a different way of "expressing" ourselves. Wow, this is embarrassing, now you'll all know how bad my chicken-sickness is...and how I've infected my children. Well, we bock at each other. Yes, I said we bock at each other. I'll walk in the door after work and say "Bock" and two "Bock-bocks" will respond. When we leave we kiss and say "Bock-Bock-Bawcka". Yes, I know, I need therapy.

 

[BantyRooster]

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You'll know the whole bock bock thing is out of control when one of you lays and egg.

 

[NancyDz]

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[NancyDz]

My family are big on hugging too and we are good about saying I love you also.. I think partly because we lost my sister when we were kids and realized how quickly and unexpected someone you care about can be taken away... so we always let those we care about know it.

My boyfriends family is the opposite.. I hug them all and they are stiff!

My boyfriend isnt that way with me but he has a hard time with my hugging friends and family They dont care.. they just do it anyway LOL


Nancy

 

[TennesseeTruly]

The very first time I heard my mother tell me that she loved me was on her death bed 2 days before she died. I was 32 years old. I'm the oldest of 10 children and she never told any of us that she loved us. She also never hugged us.

I decided to be just the opposite. I hug everyone! I always made sure that my children knew from the moment I knew I was pregnant, how much I loved them and how wanted they were.

It's so sad to go through your childhood and most of your adult life not knowing if you are actually loved.

I agree, tell your loved ones how much you love them. One day, you may not have the chance.

Laurie

 

[WriterofWords]

Tennessee it was something like that that made me decide I would not be like my family growing up. My mother is 1/2 Welch and 1/2 German, my natural father was full blooded Cherokee, but I didn't know him. If you got upset and emotional that was fine, as long as you went to the back room got in the back of the closet, buried yourself under multiple layers of sound-proofing and let out your emotions. But when you came out you'd better now have any evidence of your melt-down showing.
My grandma who raised me used to tell me she'd get me through 25 years and after that I was on my own. I knew my grandparents loved me, but they never told me. I turned 25 on May 24, 1988, on May 27 my grandma woke me up because I was doing some photography in Midland, TX and she walked me to the door and said "Drive carefully, I love you." I left floating on cloud 9!!
I got to Midland and the police were waiting for me at my hotel; right after I walked out and got on the road she sat down to watch her soap operas and died.
I feel she knew even though she'd literally never been sick and only in the hospital to deliver 2 of her three children.
I decided right then that my family would hear me say "I love you" often and truthfully, not just lip-service.
I'm not a touchy-feely person, I have a huge personal space I don't like people in, but that doesn't keep me from telling those I love that I do love them truly and deeply.

 

[okiron]

I don't let hubby leave anywhere without I love yous, hugs, kisses, the whole shebang.