Why is it so hard?

[chickabator]

I always tell my dh and dd and sil's that I love them and you know what I get from dh nothing! that man has not told me 1 time in 10 years that he loves me. I tell him everyday. not only do I tell him I show him by the thing I do for him. he says well the bible says not to tell your love in words but to show it in deed. well I do both and I am blessed if I get a smile from him . I don't want to ever forget to tell my kids I love them or someone in my family it might be the last time I ever get to say it, we don't ever know none of us has a promise of tomorrow. so I try to show each day just how much I love my family. I just wish the feelings were mutual.

 

[WriterofWords]

Chickabator I'm sorry you are having such trouble in your personal life right now, it can be so hard when one person is willing to say I love you and the other isn't. It comes down to accepting that you know how the other person feels about it and be happy or you have to take it in hand and tell them exactly how you feel about you being the only one to voice the feelings. If it is something that is really bothering you and on your mind, spell it out for him. "Honey I love you, I know you love me, or at least I think you do, but I need to hear it from you." If you have doubts you can't settle down, you might need to look into a counselor, if not for both of you, for you, so you can have some piece of mind.
I'm not married, I have been, twice, and I think I can honestly say I never will be again, at least I'm not planning on it. I have a brother I love dearly, and I tell him that, but I can't remember the last time he told me he loved me. I accept that I know he does, and I can't force him to tell he does it would only cause trouble between us because he's just not that way. I hug him and say I love you anyway. He hugs me back and says nothing.