Then you should read this.Personally, I candle the third day. Can't help myself. I've never lost an egg I did that with and I make sure to do it with hens I know won't leave the nest because of that. I also don't toss any until day 14
But if you aren't sure how the hen will react, then I wouldn't risk it
It's not to do with how grumpy the hen is, it's to do with egg development.
https://www.scielo.br/scielo.php?script=sci_arttext&pid=S1516-635X2016000600001