will I survive raising my 16 year old daughter...

[hikerchick]

Mine is 19 and from 14-17 were pure heck.

She started turning human around 18 and now she often makes me proud. She has become hard working, thoughtful, sensible, considerate.

Hold tight. It will happen. I never believed it back then.

 

[Crystalchic]

I am very sorry Kelly that you had to go through that
but if you got all of the therapy that you needed and are able to talk to another girl to save her
that is a great idea
but should be very carefully done
kids need to see first hand
and they need to know that the girl on the news or in the news paper could just as easy be them

 

[mtnhomechick]

Bury 'em when they're 12 and dig 'em up when they're 21

 

[Kelly G]

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Thanks, Crystal. I had YEARS of therapy - and it is the reason my life is as good as it is now. I lecture twice a year at the University of South Florida Women's Studies course on my experience. And I also volunteer at "The Spring".

I'll talk to any one.

 

[Crystalchic]

im moving to south florida
i will be back the 17th through the 29th
my daughter got into trouble in miami when she was 12 years old on a visitation with her father
therapy didnt work for her
we had to institutionalize her for sever years but after she turned 18 she stopped all of her treatments
that is great that kids have people like you that can really talk to them

 

[dipence71]

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I don't think any man will ever be good enough for my DD. NOthing is good enough for her.

Got her a new phone and it was exactly what she wanted....for about 5 minutes....

her dad gave her a car and it wasnt good enough because it is old and not new. My spin was make her pay for it and she would learn to appreciate it if she has to invest in it.
it blew the motor and now she expects me to sell my van(that she is driving because when we(I was going to make her pay for it) got another car for her and she screwed up and I said too bad you drive the van now(which she has already wrecked once that we know of and still not fixed). Then she does hill jumping in my van) to get her a new car.
NOT
She has had a job for over 1 1/2 yrs and has nothing to show for it. never has paid for car insurance nothing and it has ticked me off.

Well today she comes in and says she didn't have any gas in the van can she take my car. I said no go to town and put gas in it and then go.( you know responsibility) Her dad threw a fit and said why do I not want her to drive my car.
I just ignored him and her and she went and got gas and went in the van. Then she wants to go to (another town) to see her "friend"(boy) so I told her to ask her dad.


So I am taking a mental vacation from both of them and am currently "on strike" I am not talking to my DH or DD17 unless absolutely necessary because no matter what I do it ends up biting me in the butt so why do anything......

Gooooood Luck!!!!!

 

[Crystalchic]

does that mean that yur daughter knows how to pump gas
if so can she teach mine how

 

[hearthnsoul]

We have five, two are girls and let me say I am right in the middle of what you have going on, and honestly, then some with my youngest daughter. Sometimes I wonder if I can really keep going on with it. She is almost 19 right now, and she has filled our lives with alot of pain for the last 6 of them. I pray for her, and hope that somehow she will learn from her mistakes, but I am starting to learn that this can't happen unless I let her face the consequences of them. I have spent 6 years putting out fires and now she has a blaze going and it's hard but I feel like the right thing and maybe the only thing to do is turn it over to God and step back.
I am so sorry that you are going trhough this, if they only knew how it tears us apart. My heart goes ou to you and I will add a prayer for you

 

[hearthnsoul]

Kelly, one more thing,..let me offer some advice from my mistakes,..let her make her mistakes and pay for them now,..the stakes get higher and the penalties alot more ominous after 18. If I had only let her fall on her own face and figure out how to pick herself up when she was younger, it may have avoided all that she creates now.

 

[dipence71]

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I made her dad teach her when she started driving. Then she had to call us several times to walk her threw it step by step several times but she finally got it... I think

now if I could only get her to learn how to put air in the tires....Which I tried teaching her to do as I have a torn rotator cuff possibly broken collar bone and sever road rash from a recent motorcycle wreck. All she could do is say how stupid this is and how stupid it is there is no air conditioning in the van and blah blah blah. But no sympathy for her dear old mom with a bum arm and in major pain.