Would satellite TV be too much? UPDATED with kid's reaction

[Cetawin]

hehehehehe Well come on over anytime...you can have the kids room and watch the big screen in the livingroom....she can sleep in the coop. LOL

Actually I would not want to put my girls through her whinning session...

Her dad got her to clean her room tonight...military clean too. He grabbed his old Army cot, a blankie, set it up on the covered porch and said "Good Night". She about died! He listened to her and then said...you have one hour to clean that room then there will be a health and welfare inspection....if your crap is not right, you sleep outside. Then your mother and I shall clean your room for you.

Man did she get busy! hehehehe


Oh and I have tried the "do whatever because when you are 18 your butt is outta here" and she just smiles and says "You would never let me starve, be cold or wet". BRAT!

 

[hollyclyff]

Your daughter is lucky her teacher is giving her half credit. At my 11 year old's school they get half credit if it is turned in one day late, but later than that they get zero credit. My daughter even has a zero on an assignment that she turned in on time and her teacher knows she turned it in on time, but she forgot to put her name on it so she gets no credit.

 

[MamaDragon]

I went thru this too...... and it is SOOOOO frustrating !!

DD is Mensa material, and could have pulled straight A's if she had wanted. Instead, she's skip the homework, taking F's on all of them.... walk in, take the weekly test, get 100% on it. End result - C grades on the report card. (One teacher ended up having her grading papers for the rest of the class just to keep her occupied while the rest of the class did the exercises)

When I asked her WHY aren't you turning in your homework? You've done it, right?? She'd answer that it was a waste of her time and paper, she knew the materials, as her test scores showed. (hated to admit it, but she had a point) The other answer was, "It's boring, I KNOW this stuff, when will they actually TEACH me something that I can't figure out for myself??

Most of the smarter kids in a class are bored to tears while waiting on the rest of the class to "get it", so they can move on. Maybe your DD needs to be challenged, either with tougher / honors classes, or outside learning - 4H, FHA (Future Homemakers of America), taking language or some other activity that peaks her interests. This will also make a good bargaining tool - if you don't turn in your homework for school, you can't attend your outside activity this week.

I had to quit stressing out about it, and let her be. She passed all her classes, and it just wasn't worth the daily arguements. Some kids just don't "fit in" when it comes to standardized learning environments. She finally solved the issue when she took the GED test, placing 4th in the state for highest score that year, and winning a scholarship to the local college.

I wish I could have HomeSchooled her, but that just wasn't done then.

Now, my DD is 29, finally attending College (while raising a family as well), and in a fast-track system. She's taking 4 yrs of classes in two! Excelling on the grades, enjoys the classwork, and performing as well as anyone could ask.

 

[ricky bamboo]

...but don't forget that she will be the one making the decisions for you in your adult diaper and kidney dialysis years.

 

[Hangin Wit My Peeps]

O my do I know this one! My daughter who WAS a straight A student screwed up her JR and SR year and was NOT able to graduate with her class. She is now struggling and she went back to get her high school Diploma because she KNEW she could not do it easy without it. GRRR KIDS can be so darn stubborn! Now that she did that she screwed up the chance for the college she wanted to go to because there is now way they will take her now.

 

[Guitartists]

Yup... when the grades go down or they get too big for their britches... the TV comes out! They get it back when they improve their attitudes. It only ends up happening about twice a year. Removing the TV is the easiest way to take it all away.... no tv = no games and no movies

 

[flakey chick]

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That is a special concern for me. In addition to all the regular teenage crud they go through at that age girls are often pressured not do well in school. That doesn't justify her outrageous behavior, but it's a heads up that you may have some more to deal with.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

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High school English teacher agrees...

You are an awesome parent.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

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If you raise a kid with love, but also teach them respect and priorities, you will have nothing to worry about in old age.

Letting a kid get away with whatever they want will not make them love or respect you, especially if they end up as a failure in life. In fact, I think they'll be more likely to be selfish and forget about you in your old age.

Kids crave discipline and boundaries, and are more likely to thrive under a parent that cares about them -- but has firm rules -- than a parent that lets them do whatever they please. Setting logical but high expectations will usually cause a child to aim for those expectations. This true fact can be found in any child development textbook.

 

[Cetawin]

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High school English teacher agrees...

You are an awesome parent.

Thanks so much...some days it sure does not feel like it. I once told her that I love her above all things BUT it is my job to raise a responsible, respectful, smart and honest young woman...and that job doess not pay for crap and means I will really piss her off from time to time...but the love is unquestionable.