Would You Be Mad ?

[Mattemma]

I would take the saw to get fixed and tell dh no thanks on the buddy option. I would not let dh argue about why it is better or cheaper to have buddy come.Buddy is unreliable and sometimes it is better to pay out more to get a good end result than it is to save up front(via use of buddy) and be left with a half-arse job...or heck...just waiting on him to even show!

Like you said the work needs to be done. I tell dh if the mower breaks and he can't fix it I will buy a new oneI recently warned his as the mower is sounding funny.Our sump broke and dh wants to fiddle with it.Um no...I am buying a new one...after that you are free to fiddle with the broken stuff! I have been waiting over a year for my wheelbarrel to be fixed. I just tease him about this stuff,but really I will buy new things if it is really needed!

If this is causing a big issue with you two I guess I would allow buddy to come on a SPECIFIC DAY.If he is a no-show or the repair is not good then move on to get it fixded.Don't say * I told you so* but don't forget what a waste of time it was to wait on buddy the next time dh suggests it.

Best wishes!

 

[Chickenmaven]

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Ditto.
Hang in there. Our SOs have the power to make us POed...

 

[Melissa034]

Its always easier to ask forgiveness rather than permission.

You could always get the saw fixed and do what you have to do. Then if the "buddy" shows up, give him another job that needs to be done(like cutting the wood). Just tell hubby you've got things taken care of.

Im sure its stressful for both of you being so far apart. I hate when my husband works away from us.

Good Luck

 

[EweSheep]

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I agree even our marriage counselor said that one!

If it is something minor, needs to be fixed, and hubby decided to fix it himself or have his "buddy" fix it and it is a no show, then it would be up to you to fix it or buy a brand new one. Not worth arguing about it. Works for me! When there are things that needs to be done, it needs to be done.

 

[Ridgerunner]

I worked away from home a month at a time for several years. My wife had to handle things while I was gone. She did not always do things the way I would have, we often talked it over on big decisions, but she was the one handling it. Sometimes there was not time for discussion. Separations like that are rough. I know.

Different people have different personalities and I do not know your's or your husband's personality. You need the saw fixed so you can get the wood in when you can, not wait until the last minute. If I were in your position, I would probably give the buddy a deadline. If it is not fixed by a certain date, take it in to get fixed. My worry with letting the buddy fix it is that he would haul it off to fix it and then you don't see the saw for a couple of months so you lose control of the situation. If you think that is a real risk, just take the saw in.

Good luck!

 

[angelique_redhead]

Buddy needs to come out when he says he will and do the job there. If he does not show up then take the saw to be fixed. I have to play Little Red Hen a lot too as my DH is out of the country most of the time. I agree with everyone else. It is easier to beg forgiveness than to ask for permission since I'm always at fault if I don't get it done. *HUGS*

: Angelique

 

[karl E lutz]

He will get over it if you get it fixed,but do whatever it takes to keep the strife at a minimum. I too worked away a lot in my last marriage and, well things weren't good.

 

[Debob]

Take the saw in and get it fixed. Your on a time frame, winter is coming and you can only do so much daily. There's lots of jobs and your the only one do'ing them,can't count on buddy he's not dependable. Hubby will understand and still love you.

 

[Wifezilla]

You should go with your husband's decision. Even if his buddy doesn't come right away, unless you are really desperate for wood, does it really matter enough to cause all that strife and grief in your house? Is it really worth the anger and arguement?

Yes if I were in your shoes I probably would be upset, but I would try very hard to avoid strife.

As a person that has been happily married for 23 years I will say this is horrible advice!

Doing whatever to avoid strife is a great way to build resentment.

I think giving the buddy a set time and day and if he doesn't show taking it to the shop is a great idea. That is a reasonable compromise.​

 

[EweSheep]

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As a person that has been happily married for 23 years I will say this is horrible advice!

Doing whatever to avoid strife is a great way to build resentment.

I think giving the buddy a set time and day and if he doesn't show taking it to the shop is a great idea. That is a reasonable compromise.

I agree its a bad advice....

Yes every time you avoid strife, resentments will build and it would create friction and tension and it would make the hubby look bad that he is unavailable at home when he is needed. If a woman does not mind doing these chores, you simply just don't stop her pattern of chores and determination of getting things done so it would create harmony, stablity and music in the homestead and their marriage. And the hubby would not be so overburden with "honey to do" list when he gets home and having a bitter wife to deal with. Truckers wives would know this too! For those things that CAN wait, it would be fine for hubby to take on the project where he left off so he can finish it when he gets home, like his plane model he is working on for years!

You just have to know when to pick your battles.