I'm so sorry for your loss. I had no advice to offer as this is all new to me, too.
What I have started doing is printing out advice I see, like what Silver Phoenix gave you here - and putting it in a binder, so I'll have it at hand for reference when needed.
What I have started doing is printing out advice I see, like what Silver Phoenix gave you here - and putting it in a binder, so I'll have it at hand for reference when needed.