Originally Posted by gjensen
There is nothing wrong with coming to a different conclusion. It is when we arrogantly dismiss what others say, that have more experience, and we went to them to begin with. .. LOL. They never have to say anything. I cannot say how many pms I get with a question, and then they do not like the answer. Even respond with rudeness. That is what we do. We look to them for help, and then we walk away criticizing the help they offered. That is reflective of a serious character flaw. Typical these days. I disagree with people all of the time, and I am not shy about discussing it with them.
Look at this way. We have done everything but name this man, in public, to the entire world. And he has been publicly criticized for trying to help. That is what I publicly rebuked, or the attitude that leads to it.
We do not think about what we do. We do not leave our own orbit so we only react to how something makes us feel. It is all about us.
When we discuss things here, we are all on equal footing. We bat around thoughts and ideas. We agree and disagree. For a poultry judge, he is in a unique position. People will go to him with questions, and because he or she is not God, they will provide less than perfect answers. People will then walk away offended, and question the character of that imperfect judge. What sense does that make? It would be better if the poultry judge never answered a question at all. Then he will not share thoughts for others to be bothered by.
Now Desertchic, you have a very genuine spirit. Do not take this post as criticism. This is commenting to people in general. This is certainly not questioning your intentions. Please do not take it that way.
I take absolutely no offense to anything you said and would concede that you have an extremely valid point about people asking for advice from the more experienced and then responding....inappropriately??...to that advice. My only retort in this particular scenario would be that while this individual about whom I was discussing is extremely knowledgeable about poultry keeping, judging, etc., he was in fact NOT knowledgeable about capons. By his own admission he'd never created a capon, and I don't think he's ever consumed one either, and therefore could not speak from experience or as a voice of wisdom on the subject. He merely dismissed the idea as a waste of time. I think to @Kassaundra 's point, a person in such a position of authority who has no experience on a topic should perhaps consider being restrained and conservative about advising one way or another. I'm a pretty strong-willed, free-thinking individual and was in no way deterred from my pursuit by his advice, but there are plenty of people who under such influence may avoid pursuing an expansion of their knowledge or a rediscovery of some of the "old ways" simply because an "expert" told them not to waste their time. Respect goes both ways, and unfortunately (or not) being in a position of authority means you must be MORE careful about what you say and advise, not less. Given how attentive you are to the wording in your own posts, I think you understand this.
Right now I very much regret having referenced this person at all, for as you pointed out, I have inadvertently led to the villification of a man I truly do respect, even if I disagree with him on this particular point. I had thought that by remaining ambiguous about his identity my complaint about him would be innocuous, but that may have been an incorrect assumption on my part. My own personal hope to learn this process and both its benefits and pitfalls, and share my experience on the matter with this individual. I believe that we all have something to learn from and teach to one another irrespective of age, gender, etc., and I'd like to show him a side of poultry keeping that he has never himself really considered. After all, he's already taught me quite a bit. I'd like to return the favor.