Husband just died

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I am so sorry for your loss.
 
Thank you all.

I went to sleep last night and he was up watching a DVD on model aircraft on the laptop and this morning he had fallen out of his chair, stone cold, his lips blue and stomach starting to distend. I called 911 but it was too late for them to do anything, I knew it anyway.

Hasn't sunk in for our 6 yr old daughter yet. She says she's sad but so far seems more excited that aunts, grandparents and cousins are calling and talking to her. A friend came over and spent the morning with me. My dad is here for the day now, my mom is coming up from Ann Arbor and staying through the funeral.

DH, Wayne, was so excited about summer, saying he was going to quit smoking, go out and fly his model aircraft, looking forward to maybe even horseback riding. He just got his cel-phone going last Friday and wanted to go to TSC today to look at welding equipment. We wanted to get a pony for our daughter and I was going to call the people today to tell them we were going to buy it ...

I wish I had checked on him, I wish I had gotten up in the middle of the night for some reason, but I didn't. I'll never talk to him again. I want to tell him I'm sorry I didn't get up or that we didn't spend more time together last night ...

He has a daughter from a previous marriage and no will and now stuff is going to go to probate and I don't want to deal with that either ...
 
Oh my gosh I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your daughter. I can't even imagine the pain and fear that you are going through. May you find the peace and strength to get you and DD through this trying time. Hugs and thoughts going out to you
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Cara
 
Oh honey, I know that all the things you feel like you "should've" done are going through your head right now, that's completely natural. But don't blame yourself. It sounds like it was really quick, and there was likely nothing you could have done. We all have things we wish we would have said to loved ones that have left us too early, but it really sounds like you had a happy life with each other, and there's just nothing to regret about that. My heart absolutely breaks for your daughter to lose her daddy so young.
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Its at times like this I wish I could reach inside and take away the pain.I Pray for you and yours god bless you. Don,
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So sorry for your loss. Don't shoulda yourself. You didn't know and couldn't know what was going to happen and have nothing to feel guilty about.
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Lean on family and friends when you need to. Try to take care of yourself.
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God bless.
 
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Please don't second-guess yourself this way. He went doing something he enjoyed and there's nothing you could have done. I'm sure he knows how much you loved him. Your daughter is a bit young to understand. It'll take time for her to understand - it'll also take time for you to get through the shock. Please use all the support you have available to help you get through everything.

My sincere condolences.
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