Party - As far as the party goes, just do what you had planned. It sounds great to me! My mom and your mom could be sisters. My mom likes to have everything done better, bigger and more elaborate than anyone else. She threw fits last year when by brother got married at a park and had a BBQ reception. But she was the only one. I would try and accommodate her on some little things, maybe some of the food, but go with what makes it easier on you.
Gifts - I assume that your family knows, or at least will know, of your plans to spend years traveling in the RV. I would include a line in the invitation explaining that because of limited space in the RV you would prefer gifts be made to a local children's hospital. Not everyone will do this. So you have two choices, either explain that extraneous gifts will be donated anyway or donate them after the party and don't tell anyone. Your daughter will be three and the excitement of the RV will supercede the toys she will be losing. Let your mom get her something, I agree that it's a grandma's right. Maybe you could think of something that is small that your daughter would just love. Offer suggestions to your mom, but also a word of warning that if it is too big it will be given away. Let her decide.
Mom - Several years ago we moved overseas and were just taking what could fit in our luggage. My son was just a couple months old and when everyone was buying baby gifts they knew to buy small things like clothes. Well, almost everyone. My mom insisted that my DS could not survive without a swing and some HUGE Little Tykes plastic trucks. Umm, really? Well, we gave them away and she was hurt. But I didn't even feel badly about it because we had told her it was going to happen. Your mom is an adult and she is more than capable of seeing the consequences of her actions if she wants to. If she doesn't see the need to scale down to move into an RV it is unlikely that you will able to convince her. Just try not to let her reactions bother you. It has taken me years, but my mom can still rile me up sometimes like no one else!
Gifts - I assume that your family knows, or at least will know, of your plans to spend years traveling in the RV. I would include a line in the invitation explaining that because of limited space in the RV you would prefer gifts be made to a local children's hospital. Not everyone will do this. So you have two choices, either explain that extraneous gifts will be donated anyway or donate them after the party and don't tell anyone. Your daughter will be three and the excitement of the RV will supercede the toys she will be losing. Let your mom get her something, I agree that it's a grandma's right. Maybe you could think of something that is small that your daughter would just love. Offer suggestions to your mom, but also a word of warning that if it is too big it will be given away. Let her decide.
Mom - Several years ago we moved overseas and were just taking what could fit in our luggage. My son was just a couple months old and when everyone was buying baby gifts they knew to buy small things like clothes. Well, almost everyone. My mom insisted that my DS could not survive without a swing and some HUGE Little Tykes plastic trucks. Umm, really? Well, we gave them away and she was hurt. But I didn't even feel badly about it because we had told her it was going to happen. Your mom is an adult and she is more than capable of seeing the consequences of her actions if she wants to. If she doesn't see the need to scale down to move into an RV it is unlikely that you will able to convince her. Just try not to let her reactions bother you. It has taken me years, but my mom can still rile me up sometimes like no one else!
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