5 Year Old Barber

[bigredfeather]

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Good idea, but atready did that.

Then I would also tell her (can be a white lie that I have had to use) that if she lays one for finger on LS's head, then hers will be shaved or cut. I tend to get a bit strict but it seems to work so I'm not letting it go yet LoL

That was "Plan B" after the spanking. I told her if she did it again, that was what was going to happen. Well, the very next day I heard on the news a Mom got in trouble with the law for shaving her daughters head. LOL The timing was a little bit too much of a coinicedence. Not that I'm worried about getting in trouble. Besides that, my brother is getting married next month, and my daughter is in the wedding. Shaving her head would be more of a punishment to my future SIL than my daughter. If it weren't for that, I would consider it.

One solution I have found that works in some circumstances is that if a child won't leave the sibling or sibling's stuff alone, then they will have all of their stuff taken away until they can earn it back.

Good idea.​

 

[bigredfeather]

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We have used positive reinforcement with her before and it did work. Might be worth trying again. I'm not sure about the doll. LS's hair seems to be target.

 

[bigredfeather]

Thanks everyone for your input. It's great to be able to find out what other parents have gone thru and how they handled it. My DW just called and said she did it again. She went out to get the mail, and the little Edward Scissor hands climbed the pantry cabinet that the scissors where on top of, cut, then flushed the hair down the toilet. I put those scissors up there last night, thinking she couldn't reach them.

Please don't think we're bad parents. I don't think it's out of line for the adult in charge to take 3 minute to go get the mail while the kids are inside. Is that wrong? She said before she went to get the mail, they where playing in the toy room. She made the mistake of telling them she was getting the mail. When she came back, LS said "Sissy cut my hair again," and BS confessed. I hate to think about not ever leaving them alone in fear of it happening. I guess all scissors and knives are going to have to be locked up.

 

[wolftracks]

Forget the doll. It gives her the scissors to do it and there ya go. More supplies.

Also check under furniture, up under couches and chairs that have a lining (great hiding spot) under choussin (tryied 7 times and for some reason can't spell it. LOL), between canned food, under large appliances, in potted plants. She has something hidden somewhere.

My grand daughter that lives with me just did this a couple of weeks ago. She wanted bangs. She's 5 and I don't think that's going to happen again. When I was little my friend and I cut eachothers hair right after Christmas. We started with our dogs and then ran out of hair. We both had our hair trimmed at professional shops, both had hair done our backs. We ended up with Pixie cuts. I was so upset when I found out my doll would never grow her hair back. I was 4 and I still have that doll. I don't remember a spanking, but my doll was taken away where I could see it and not touch it. Drove me crazy. Glad it was someplace I really couldn't get to though, because if it had been on some big piece of furniture that could have been pulled over I probably would have climbed it and been crushed.

My oldest daughter's 2 girls..............OMG! They're 18 and 17 now. Long beautiful hair, but when they were between the ages of 3 and 7 those girls rarely had hair in the front of their heads. It was aweful. The oldest said they wanted to be beautiful and the youngest said she wanted to make her sister pretty. But it kept happening. Most times they did it around BDay parties and holidays. Their school pictures? Yeah well. Tiny hairs sticking straight up. My daughter had a cabinet that she had a lock on for things she was afraid they'd get hold of and the scissors were always put up, but set them down for 1/2 a muntes and someone was sheared.

I bought the girls a bunch of bows and made them beaded and feathered hair clips and bands. Anything shiny and fancy. I was visiting for a few days and gave them their stuff. They played with it a while and were all excited and I said,"hey, do I see cut hair?" They both smiled and giggled and laughed saying
YES!" I took everything away. I said I made these for pretty hair and your hair isn't pretty. You need to stop cutting it and I might give them back."

OK I was the bad guy. My daughter though I was terrible and okay yeah, they screamed and cried and threw things. OH WELL! They kept begging and I kept saying no and then they hated me, so I said "That's ok, I still love you anyway." Then I baked cookies and I was a good grandma again.

They were sneaky little kids. I swear I don't know how my daughter has survived sometimes. LOL They are sitting there with the coolies and talking to me and then the hair stuff came up. They promised to never cut their hair again. Yeah I was gonna fall for that.

We washed and combed and curled hair for the week I was there. I even set scissors where I could see them and waited. Nothing. When I left I gave my daughter a box and said let them wear something. I told her they got one thing at a time and work with me, cause if she called crying about the hair again I didn't want to here about it. The deal was, one thing at a time, a hair day and if they cut their hair she shipped the things to me. They cut one more time and she hid the box and said she sent it. They found it. Then they did it again and she took them with her to the PO and shipped. Six months later they had finally stopped and got their hair stuff back.

Maybe you need to do a hair day, find some cute things that match and then say "Oh, we have to wait till your sister;s hair is pretty, so you can wear them together. Has to be both, not just one. Just let her pick some $1 store items out for both of them.

Also did she go to kindergarten? Did it all start during summer when there were not friends from school? Does she have time where she meets other kids being home schooled? Sometimes taking friends away and no chance to see maybe a best friend, can make them upset. Maybe make a day that that friend can come over but only if there's no hair cutting.

I have to say I had 4 girls. There was cut hair. I did spank. But it continued. Grandkids are easier if you can get the parent to help. You have to do this on your own though.

 

[Orchid]

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The reasons so far have been: She doesn't like her sisters hair, so she is cutting it. And the other reason is she says LS made her mad, so she is getting back

Her reasons worry me a lot more than the hair cutting itself. I would be afraid that it would go further - she's got a sharp object of some sort, obviously, if she has the ability to cut hair. If she were just trying to beautify her sister that would be one thing, but "getting back at her" is pretty worrisome. I'd be turning my house upside down to get rid of anything she could potentially use to cut hair, or worse.

 

[turney31]

I think, at this point, I would try to make her take every step I took all day. Explaining every time she complains, I can't trust you to stay alone so you will be spending some boring mommy days with me. Six years old knows better.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Those two kids should not be left alone in a room for a minute. You already know there's a problem with how the older one feels about the younger one due to the reasons she said she cut her hair.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Get the book Siblings Without Rivalry.

You have a sibling rivalry problem that is edging on dangerous. In the meantime, major supervision.

 

[eenie114]

I second the idea of telling BS that if she can't be trusted be be by herself (with LS) than she will have to stay in the same room as Mommy at all times. All day. It's proven to be very effective in our family maybe it will be with yours? Make her sit on a chair with (or without!) a book while Mom washes dishes, in the same room, have Mom escort her to the bathroom, etc.

 

[dewey]

"The reasons so far have been: She doesn't like her sisters hair, so she is cutting it. And the other reason is she says LS made her mad, so she is getting back"......."When she gets caught/disiplined, it seems to have no effect on her."

These 2 things would concern me enough not to leave the little one alone with the older one until the reason (and remedy) for the older one's anger and lack of respect for parental authority can be worked out. Good luck.​