My whole life is upside-down right now. Without getting too deeply into the details, I have moved out of my home and left my husband. I am living out of a bag at a family member's home.
After a lot of discussion, I have decided to take him back conditionally. I have set out a series of proverbial hoops for him to jump through to prove to me that there will be no repeat of what caused me to leave in the first place. I will not become one of those women that gets entrenched in an inescapable cycle.
We are really trying to work it out. Neither of us truly wants to call it quits. So far he has far exceeded my hopes and expectations. I guess now the true test is to see if it will stick, or if it will cycle back to the way it was before. In the meantime I will be staying with my aforementioned family member for the next 3 months. During this time, he has the opportunity to hit the reset button. We will either come out the other side of this stronger, or divorcees. Time will tell which.
Before any judgmental people jump on here, this was no petty skirmish. The "hoops" I have put in place are entirely reasonable and completely necessary for establishing a renewed and healthy marriage.
Those of you who pray, please pray for me, my husband, and our marriage. Those of you who don't, please send positive thoughts/energy my way way. I need all the help I can get.
Thank you
After a lot of discussion, I have decided to take him back conditionally. I have set out a series of proverbial hoops for him to jump through to prove to me that there will be no repeat of what caused me to leave in the first place. I will not become one of those women that gets entrenched in an inescapable cycle.
We are really trying to work it out. Neither of us truly wants to call it quits. So far he has far exceeded my hopes and expectations. I guess now the true test is to see if it will stick, or if it will cycle back to the way it was before. In the meantime I will be staying with my aforementioned family member for the next 3 months. During this time, he has the opportunity to hit the reset button. We will either come out the other side of this stronger, or divorcees. Time will tell which.
Before any judgmental people jump on here, this was no petty skirmish. The "hoops" I have put in place are entirely reasonable and completely necessary for establishing a renewed and healthy marriage.
Those of you who pray, please pray for me, my husband, and our marriage. Those of you who don't, please send positive thoughts/energy my way way. I need all the help I can get.
Thank you
