A long, bad rant - need to talk to someone.

[Sonoran Silkies]

If your MIL and DH are equal owners of the property, he has the right to an equal say. You might consider the possibility of splitting the property into two parcels, with ownership of one given to your DH and the other to you MIL; then you can price your property for whatever it will actually sell for. I am sure there are legalities for subdiiding the property, so you would need to check into that, and you also need to find someone who can make an impartial and equal recommendation on where the split should be.

 

[mikensara]

your husband is so lucky to have you. I would have packed my bags and moved on long ago than be treated that way by his mother. When we first moved back to "moron mountain" as I refer to this place with the inlaws who i have my moments with I have actually looked for apartments and fully planned to move out and take the kids. I had to stand my ground and make it clear I am a good parent, I will correct my children, You dont want me screaming in your face then back the heck off!

next time it snows pour hot water on her doorsteps should ice up really nice for her

 

[ChickyLove]

I have no words of wisdom, but am praying for you.

 

[heatherindeskies]

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No joke.... just feel what you need to feel for your precious Joy. Cry as much as you need to and just hold her and love her.
and tell DH he NEEDS to stand up to mom and tell her his family will not be treated like dirt anymore to accommodate her. Letting his wife and child live without running water when it is only a few feet away? C'mon... you three packing up and leaving with nothing would be better than that. You three deserve better, dear.

 

[sumi]

mikensara: pity it doesn't snow here.... or not enough anyway. You guys must STOP giving me ideas

Everyone: Gosh, feel like a zombie today. Spent about 5min looking for my two rescued chickens, Faith and Luna. DH found them hiding in the kitchen cupboard. Every now and then I see Luna and think it's Joy
Time to get practical:
I bought this supersize babies bottle when my DS was born, to put coins in. We've started putting runaway money in it. We need about R100 000 to get away and have a bit left for a rainy day, so we've got a bit to go. But if I sell my car and the other goods and all the chickens etc we should be about a 1/4 of the way. That's going to be just before we go. So say we need to save R70 000. Thats a lot of moolah... The UK visas cost more than the flights! But once we're out of here it'll all be worth it. It's all I can think of sometimes. The great escape. I'm willing to make a few sacrifices in order to get there.. Up 'till now DH said we must move MIL first, i.e. sell the farm before we can go. But after trying very hard I've been unable to get anyone to even come look at our place, nevermind put in a offer. So I had to ask how much longer are we going to live like this? Will all the problems, his mom, our son's growing up. He's 5yo. He's not stupid, he understands things he really shouldn't see.
So we're going to save like mad and when we have enough money we're leaving, whether the farm sells or not.
Luckily we're used to living real cheap. We hardly eat meat and we've got some pigs for that, I grow vegetables, we get plenty eggs, though we sell most of them.
Round here if you get free range eggs you pay double the price of battery eggs. I've started selling the eggs we don't use at the same price as the battery eggs, had to get more hens. I've got 59 hens in production now and we barely keep up. So the chickens is one area we're looking into expanding. It's not huge sums we're making, but I've got to do something. I'll go crazy otherwise.
Looking for an incubator now, cheapest way to expand the flock quickly. I can always sell the roo's...
Wish us luck

 

[b.hromada]

I'm sorry things are so bad for you.

 

[Bama chick]

Hey sumi

Thinking about you and praying for you and your family. My husband and I spent a lot of time in RSA and loved every minute of it. We have many precious friends there. I'm sorry you feel you have to leave your home. I can't imagine what you are going through. Do what is best for your child. Hugs and more hugs.

Lisa

 

[sumi]

Thank you and

to all of you. Talking to you really helps.
Think I'm going to try and sleep now. Got some garden planning to do tomorrow. Take my mind of things a bit.
Maybe ten years from now I'll look back on this and it'll make sense. Who knows?

 

[Bama chick]

Sleep tight and have sweet dreams.

I had one thought. Is there someone who can act as a peacekeeper, maybe a pastor or another family member? Someone to speak in your behalf?
So sorry about your Joy. May she rest in peace.

Lisa

 

[Elite Silkies]

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I'm sorry but I couldn't live without running water and I can't tell you on this forum what I would do to her. How dare her, your child is just a baby. There are nice places in hell for people like that.