Advice needed

[Southern28Chick]

The funny thing is, it's not like I work for him. I just help him out about 2 times a month. I forgot to mention that he has a grown 50 year old son living at home that doesn't help with anything!

 

[carugoman]

How about telling him to talk a long walk off a short mountain path? How can another person respect you if you don't respect them? Please have the courtesy to keep the lines of communication open in both directions. It appears that there is one line open,your former boss's. You have to set the limits;have to explain the boundaries of this new relationship. Otherwise,the old way of doing things AND the old rules apply! Be gentle but be firm. Let him know what is acceptable and what YOU consider a tenable alternative when his demands conflict and affect your economics and the way your business plan is conducted. O.K.?
Y'all take care!

 

[michaelvcrowder]

tell him to enroll in tech school... no low paying part time job is worth being abused. who knows, he may just get real patient real quick.

of course you have to weigh your response with how hungry you really are for work. i worked on a chicken farm in high school for the meanest man on planet earth but i needed the money and the job was close to home. it was liberating the day i quit. do what you feel is best for you.

you could put it this way. i can come help when my business slows down for my standard rate but if you want me to drop what i am doing right now and come on over it will cost an extra 50 bucks or whatever it is worth for you to stay up all night getting your own work done.
michael

 

[Southern28Chick]

Oh and he has about 2 million dollars in his pocket which means he VERY cheap. The money he pays isn't worth the gas at all.

I reckon I have to learn how to stand up for myself.

 

[Frozen Feathers]

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I think you are being too nice even considering helping him out after him suggesting that you have to work around his schedule. He does not own you, you do not work for him, you are not contracted to him. Even if you were, him calling/faxing daily and just being plain rude is unacceptable.

Quite honestly, I think it's harassment. If someone started bugging me to do things their way and when they wanted when I have no obligation to them, well, I'd just do nothing for them. Sounds like he doesn't appreciate your help and as far as I can tell you don't deserve to be unappreciated.

 

[Southern28Chick]

I guess I'll have to tell him what's up. He's mean and rude and yells at EVERYBODY. When I worked for him he would flirt with me. I only started working for him a bit when he closed his business because I needed extra cash, and I still do but it's not worth it when I get upset and angry every time I work for him.

He has me driving all over town picking things up for him and he doesn't even give me gas money!

 

[Royicus]

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Having 2 million dollars in your pocket doesn't make you cheap. It just means that you aren't frivolous with money, which is probably why he has 2 million in his pocket, if he indeed does.

It really is fairly simple. Either stand up to him and refuse to be bullied, or else go over to his place and spend a few hours with him on Thursday.

 

[jackiedon]

Trish,

I worked for an older rich guy and I will tell you to run away from him and don't look back. He probably has that older southern thinking that women are here to do work for men. The guy I worked had kids who wouldn't do anything for him but spend his money. He was a selfish old goat!! I didn't have the nerve to tell him and finally he fired me for not coming in when there was ice on the roads. He didn't care if it was dangerous he wanted me there! It's the only time I've ever been fired and was so happy of it!!!

Good luck,

jackie

 

[michaelvcrowder]

you need to negotiate a fair deal for both of ya'll if you continue with this business relationship. give him a flat price for travel to his home, an hourly rate once you get there and a per stop price for errands. you often have to do stuff that you don't enjoy to make a living but the reward is fair compensation for your effort. business is business and you need to separate emotions from it. if he agrees to a set pricing structure be sure to stick to it and don't let him weasel out of full payment.
michael

 

[Southern28Chick]

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Having 2 million dollars in your pocket doesn't make you cheap. It just means that you aren't frivolous with money, which is probably why he has 2 million in his pocket, if he indeed does.

It really is fairly simple. Either stand up to him and refuse to be bullied, or else go over to his place and spend a few hours with him on Thursday.

Umm...no he's cheap! He used to hand me $100 for working on a Saturday when he only had about half a million and gave me $200 for my birthday. Now I work for him 6 hours and get about $60. I know him, he's cheap!

Edited: I forgot to say, yes he does have 2 million. Not only do I do his taxes but I have seen his bank account. He sold his business to a guy for 2.5 million!