Advice needed

[Southern28Chick]

He probably has that older southern thinking that women are here to do work for men.

You just hit the nail on the head!!!! That's exactly what he thinks! He couldn't keep a woman working for him for longer than a month before I can along.​

 

[silkiechicken]

You know, if he has gotten cheap and meaner over time, and you now have a business to work at. Why even bother with him? Time to ditch him and that would be that. No use just running it on and on if time changes and things don't stay up to a desired level.

 

[Royicus]

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What I am saying is, the amount you pay someone for services should not depend on what you have in the bank. That is how you lose whatever you have in the bank.

Just because someone can afford to pay more for something doesn't mean they have to, or they are obligated to.

Anyway, seems like you know what you gotta do with this guy. Good luck.

 

[Southern28Chick]

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I understand what you're saying, but I own my own soap company. I don't really "work" for him. I just help him out for pocket change.

My emotional well being means more to me then he does and if he can't wait until I have time to help him then he can just find someone else.

It feels good saying that!

 

[Southern28Chick]

Y'all are right. I'm dumping him. He can't pay me what I'm worth and he wants me to jump when he says jump and that's one of the reason's I started my own business...I jump when I want to darn it!

 

[FarmerDenise]

Southern28Chick
There a many old men who think that women were put on the earth to serve them. That does not mean you have to oblige.
Times have changed. Women have a right not to do what a man wants, and we fought hard for that right.

It is ok to say no!!!! As a matter of fact it is good to say "no". You are not obligated to please everyone and/or do as they ask or expect.
I agree with michaelvcrowder
you need to negotiate a fair deal for both of ya'll if you continue with this business relationship. give him a flat price for travel to his home, an hourly rate once you get there and a per stop price for errands. you often have to do stuff that you don't enjoy to make a living but the reward is fair compensation for your effort. business is business and you need to separate emotions from it. if he agrees to a set pricing structure be sure to stick to it and don't let him weasel out of full payment.
michael
and tell him that otherwise you cannot continue to help him. if that doesn't work, consider contacting your local police to get help, because it sounds like harrassment to me. But you have to document that stuff, in order for the police to be able to do anything about it.
This isn't being mean. It is taking care of yourself and your family!

 

[Nifty-Chicken]

I didn't read everything, but if he pays you for your work I'd tell him you can do it, but because you've go so many clients / projects that your cost is tripple your usual rate. Do his work and take the extra cash to pay someone else to help you with your business (cutting / packaging soap, whatever).

 

[Southern28Chick]

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Even if I told him to triple my pay (which he wouldn't) I still wouldn't be able to hire someone.

I'm just in a rut.

I'm stuck in a stupid rut. I need another craft show to pull me out.

 

[adoptedbyachicken]

I have to agree, set a price and time that makes it worth your while and fits your schedule and let him be the one to say no. Either it will be of value you because of it, or your rid of him, either way you win.

If however he has ever been abusive towards you such that you are nervous of being alone with him especially in his home just don't go there at all, not for any price.

 

[Southern28Chick]

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You're right. I don't feel comfortable around him. He's made to many comments in the past. I'll just have to tell him no from now on, then change my numbers.