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[Southernbelle]

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I consider that cheating.

 

[ChikeeMomma]

I have two young daughters (ages almost 7 & 3). My 7 year old was completely potty trained by 2 1/2 years. Now my just 3 year old is another story. She is pretty much potty trained with the exception of #2. She is terrified of it. The doc said to give her time and don't push and we don't. I do wonder when this fear will pass for her. Good luck and I'd give your daughter a little more time -- like someone else mentioned give her six more months. It does seem as though it becomes easier at 2 1/2.

 

[chicken_china_mom]

Hi everyone, my name is Chris and I'm a single mom to two pre-teen daughters. My older DD will be 12 at the end of this month and my younger DD will be 11 on Thanksgiving day next month. I love being a mom, couldn't imagine my life without my babies, but boy if they aren't exhausting me the closer they get to their teens!!!!

I'd like to discuss phases, if anyone is interested. For instance, from about the age of 5 to about the age of 11 I had to battle both of my girls to get them to take a bath or shower. Right up to about their 5th b-day if I said it was bathtime, they were already naked and running for the bathroom, lol, but almost the day each of them turned 5, it's like they suddenly became allergic to water and would run the other way when I would announce it was bathtime. It became like pulling teeth to get them into the tub. Right about the time my older DD turned 11, she suddenly decided that cleanliness was next to Godliness, and would shower or bath daily, sometimes more than once a day. Let me say this, we highly suspect that my older daughter has Aspergers, so I don't know how much of her behavior actually fits into the "norm" pf what other kids her age will do, but it seems to me that whatever she is going through this year, her sister goes through the next year. My younger DD is still fighting me on the baths and showers. She's a little too big to pick up and drag to the shower, not that I haven't tried, lol. I've done everything from running the bathwater for her, to buying her special shampoos, and still she'd rather run around filthy. She makes little contests with herself to see how long she can go without showering, and it drives me nuts! I'm not a clean freak, but I HAVE to have my regular shower. Right now my younger DD is running around looking like she's wearing pants. She's not.

Her current thing is to wait until something begins to hurt (usually her private region will get a painful rash or begin to itch) before she will take a shower. My trick that was working for awhile was to send my older DD to the bathroom, have her turn the water on and start to strip, and my younger DD, who is VERY competitive, would appear out of nowhere and strip in record time just to beat her sister into the shower, but that isn't working anymore. I'm not going to bribe her to take a shower. But I also don't want her getting sick because she gets an infection. Is it just the phase? I thought it was boys that liked dirt, lol. I wonder if she will have a sudden, drastic change of heart like her sister did once her 11th b-day rolls around. I can hope, right?

Another phase that drives me nuts is, if one is good about doing her chores this year, her sister won't be, and then they flip the next year. My older DD was excellent up until about 3 months ago about doing her chores, and then she began to get really argumentative and lazy. My younger DD was the lazy one, and I do mean LAZY, up until about the same time, but then she suddenly began to do her chores and help me more around the house. My younger DD is also very protective of me and kind of took over caring for me after I was in a car accident in June. If I need something, or I need help, she's usually pretty quick to help. Now, she's not excellent at doing her chores (what kid is?), and there are still chores that she will slack bad at, but she has gotten better. What I'm wondering is, what other phases can I begin to expect as year 12 rolls around? Keep in mind that my older DD shows A LOT of Aspie traits. She doesn't socialize well with kids her own age and she tends to be very secretive, so she's not boy crazy. Not sure how boy crazy she will be. She doesn't even have to be, her sister is boy crazy enough for the both of them, lol!

Oh, and has anyone else had a problem with lying? My younger DD has a very bad habit of lying. I catch her every darn time too, yet she keeps doing it, and yes, I reprimand her, I punish her, etc. I'm wondering if she'll outgrow it?

I see now why parents get gray hair...

 

[Ema]

you know what its been like that with my DD too, its a pain in the butt to try and get her take a bath or shower she is 7 but once she is in she doesn't want out. Lying happened a few times. Arguing is the big one here

so yes it is a phase and no its not just boys ahahaha. I would have to drag my oldest DS into the shower, he is now 15 and no longer needs to be told then again he is now interested in girls and shaving!!! LOL

 

[chicken_china_mom]

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Glad to know it's NOT just me, lol! And yes, my DD too, if I can get her into the tub, then she doesn't want out, but I have to get her in there first! Tomorrow is another day to fight that battle. She's asleep right now, but I'm gonna try to get her to take one in the morning. My younger DD is the most argumentative person I have EVER met. Drives me nuts. If you say you like pink, then she automatically hates it, just on principal. If her sister likes a book, or a movie, then she hates it. If I want to make salmon for dinner, then she won't eat it because she doesn't like it (yet if she's cooking the next night, she'll make it!). So because I want her clean, she doesn't want to be clean, or so it seems to me. Yet reverse psychology does NOT work on her. I've tried it for years to no avail. But I don't plan to give up. I think that tomorrow I'll be running a bath, and finding a way to get her into it!

 

[balthahm]

Hi moms!!

I have three girls, ages 6, 4 & 1.

Potty - I never used any methods or charts. I just put the kiddie potty out and put pullups on the kids. Then praised them like crazy if they used it

My oldest wore an occasional pullup until she was almost 4 and wasn't dry at night until her 5th birthday. My middle girl was completely potty trained around 3 1/2, day & night. Idk, I'd rather change a pullup than have to pull a carseat out and wash the cover or try to get pee out of my carpet so I never hurried them. They weren't in daycare or preschool in pullups, so no one knew or cared.

Bathing - This is so funny that you bring this up!! When my oldest turned 5 she suddenly didn't want a bath any more. She'd run away and hide, and one morning I had to pull her out of bed and put her right in the tub in her jammies! Just last week she finally let me teach her how to shower (never liked water in eyes before) and now she loves that and will shower daily (for now). But I have a friend who had their niece staying with them and she had the same issue - preteen girl being really really dirty. I remember suddenly showering all the time when I turned 11 or 12, too, so it must be a necessary phase.

 

[Ema]

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Glad to know it's NOT just me, lol! And yes, my DD too, if I can get her into the tub, then she doesn't want out, but I have to get her in there first! Tomorrow is another day to fight that battle. She's asleep right now, but I'm gonna try to get her to take one in the morning. My younger DD is the most argumentative person I have EVER met. Drives me nuts. If you say you like pink, then she automatically hates it, just on principal. If her sister likes a book, or a movie, then she hates it. If I want to make salmon for dinner, then she won't eat it because she doesn't like it (yet if she's cooking the next night, she'll make it!). So because I want her clean, she doesn't want to be clean, or so it seems to me. Yet reverse psychology does NOT work on her. I've tried it for years to no avail. But I don't plan to give up. I think that tomorrow I'll be running a bath, and finding a way to get her into it!

mine goes through phases, where if her little brother likes something she will turn around and say its her favorite and they argue about it non stop, yet I remind her she had just told me how she wasn't interested in it, and now was just to bug her brother ahahaha. then sometimes and trust me her favorites foods are eggs, tuna, chicken roast with vegies, she will argue till she is blue in the face about how she never liked those foods to begin with.

but yes my DD as time passes is becoming more argumentative, but that is something I recognize as her establishing her personality and testing boundaries. Its funny cause her teachers all tell me she is a total delight to have in class. I always tell them, wait till she argues with you!! and they laugh. I will admit I have been told by many childhood friends that there is no possible way to argue she is my daughter, not only does she look just like me, except her blue eyes, but her personality is all me. I had one friend tell me, maybe you don't remember how you were but I remember how many times you were grounded just for arguing with your grandmother about chores!!!! LOL...and you know what She may be just like me, but not 100 percent, I was super hot tempered as a child...has anyone seen the tinkerbell movies, when tinkerbell gets angry her face goes all red...yup that was me as a kid, my daughter either stays cool as a cucumber or cries when upset, thank goodness she got that from someone else ahahaha, my temper always got me in trouble!!!

 

[cafarmgirl]

Hi, mom to 10 and 16 year old boys here.

Potty training, my boys were both about 2 1/2 before they were reliably trained. We used the Pull-up's too, what a great invention, especially for nighttime! Don't get all in a tizzy about getting it done. If you try it and she keeps having accidents just put the pull-ups or diapers back on and try again later when she's more interested.

Where do babies come from? You'd be surprised how simple you can keep your answer and your child will be totally satisfied and move on to more interesting things. When mine were small I simply said that the babies grew in mom's belly until they were big enough to be born and then the doctors helped the baby come out. For me it was really simple, both c-sections, so I could honestly say the doctor took the baby out of my tummy and even showed then the scar! Also, as they got older they learned a lot from our farm animals!!

Hubby kissing another woman?! No way buckwheat! In my house not even a friendly peck on the cheek to anyone other then me or his mother!