Am I being selfish?

[Guitartists]

Yeah, just a bit

Just talked with my mom.... she says this all my Grandmother's doing..... she doesn;t want to come to two different parties on two weekends because she has to drive down from the cabin.... and no, it's NOT a health thing... she'd just rather hunt, drink and relax

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Can you do one party in the morning and the second in that afternoon?

 

[Dar]

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well then i would say grandma needs to see whats more important..

if i was in your shoes (and i have been with my sister, my son and my niece are 2 years and 3 days appart)

the family always wanted us to do a "family all in one" birthday...so we had the family gathering n the sunday and his friends came the saturday.....i was not going to foot the bill for all the food for everything six 5 year olds are a lot less to feed then 20 adults...

 

[Chicken Boo]

At this late date, I would not combine the parties. How is one of the kid's going to feel if the other one gets more presents? Even at 2 they notice who gets more attention.

If they want to plan ahead for next year, that is fine. But, unless there are extenuating circumstances, it is not your obligation to make such big changes and concessions.

You are not selfish.

 

[Mahonri]

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What she said.

 

[Guitartists]

In light of new information... I am thinking of suggesting my family come an hour early so my cuz can open her gifts and have her own cake (provided by her dad) and then after we all eat then we do cake and gifts for my son.

I will throw the idea out there for my uncle. If not, guess he can plan a party at his house. My mom claims it's the new wife that is the reason... she doesn't want everyone and their kids on their carpet and new furniture

Who knows

I quit worrying about that stuff eons ago! Actually, don't know that I ever really did...

 

[lockedhearts]

I just saw this thread. Can I speak from the point of view of the kids?
My sister and I are almost 3 years about , 17 days and it would have been exactly 3 years.
We had our parties together for a few years, now that we are grown we got to reminiscing and we both hated it. My parents , I am sure did it for financial reasons, but it made both of us feel , well not like it was "Our Day" we always had them in the middle of that time frame so it wasn't even on either of our birthdays.
Yes I remember my second birthday.

 

[Redfeathers]

I believe you made the right call on this one.

 

[maplesky7]

i share my birthday with my oldest sister...10 years apart to the day.

I NEVER got my own party till she moved out and that was a one time thing like when i was? 11?


and one time when i was the last kid in the house...i waited ALL day for a Happy Birthday from my parents and NEVER got one. They forgot.

and when we got older we had to agree on a restaurant which we could NEVER do.

I like the concept of throwing a party with your friends for your kid and then a small one with the family for both.

me,
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[mamaKate]

They probably need separate parties. My two youngest are 4yrs. and 4 days apart. We had a single party a couple of times and the boys decided to stop. Maybe the five year old should spend her next birthday at her mom's if Dad isn't really into it.