My youngest, turning 2 this Dec, has a birthday within days of his cousin who is turning 5. I contacted my uncle to inform him of my son's birthday and of course he mentions that we should consolidate parties. This is what we did last year, and VERY last minute and not everyone had gifts for my cousin. This would still be short notice, and many of my friends don;t really know her and yet feel obligated to buy her a gift even though money is tight. I told him this and that I didn't think it was a good idea, but now I feel bad. Part of me wants for him to throw his daughter her OWN party, but part of me also knows that he might not. So I feel bad saying no. What would you do? I need some perspective here..... I'm a horrible sucker for things and my family is dysfunctional.