Am I being selfish?

[MissPrissy]

I am on your side but think about this -

Your son is 2. He won't remember this birthday.

His daughter is 5. She will remember this birthday in pieces and parts - the memory will fade over time but for the next 2 - 5 years she will remember it. Do you want to give her something to remember? Or a memory of a disappointing birthday and possibly no party when she turned 5?

I try my best to be kind to a child who isn't at fault for having a lax parent. Not at the expense of my child but in additon too.

Will you son really suffer any loss if he shares a party with her?

Rock and a hard place -

 

[Chicken Salad]

Well, in my house holidays aren't much of a deal but birthdays are another subject entirely.

My own birthday is in January and was always either over-shadowed by THE holidays OR cancelled on account of snow.

My sister doesn't share my sentiments. She had two girls in the month of September and they have ALWAYS shared the birthday party. NOW, there's a son born in the middle of them in September...and, you guessed it...it's now a birthday party shared 3 ways.

My feeling is that a person's birthday is their day. My children were both born in July but I didn't do the communal birthday thing. Yeah, it's a lot of work but it would be work if it was June and January, too.

I hear the folks who say the 2yo won't remember and I agree...but it sets a nasty precedent to combine them. As far as relatives who don't want to come out two weekends...that's THEIR deal.

That's my bucket of feed on it....

 

[ILoveJoe]

You are not responsible for anyone's party except your own child.

If the 5 year old has a sucky birthday, it is the parents who are to blame, not you.