Am I being.... what's the word, hmmm - rude?

[ourlittleflock]

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I will do that!! I don't believe he will care one way or the other

 

[Bear Foot Farm]

I think whoever planned a wedding on a FRIDAY afternoon is the one being inconsiderate

 

[ourlittleflock]

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that is the way my husband feels......................

but I did talk with the bride-to-be and she said they had no problem with the boys not being there, she completely understands

we use a phrase sometimes "Like it or Lump it" and that is going to stick for this wedding

 

[kareninthesun]

respectfully, a different oppinion with experience.

i kept my son out for.the same reason. had to leave early to pick him up. he could have taken the tests later, but i used him as an excuse to pull my weight with a logical reason and let my sis know that their decission to plan this wedding then made my child stay away. every time i view the wedding pictures i am.reminded that i send mixed messages to my now adult child that weddings are a point of celebration but personal education can be used as a weapon. if i had to do it over again, i would tell him it is inconvenient, their choice, we will be there to see them blessed and celebrate and work together to make sue he gets back on track with a.minimum of time lost. most schools of.elementary ages let students make up tests during recess.

my son makes.excelleent marks. i have since had to pull him out for emergencies. hes learned to be adaptable and work harder for.priveldges school related in making up . hes learned to be responsible for.his actions. but i cannot get that time back.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Why was the wedding planned on a Friday just after lunch hour? Usually couples will do this to save money and they understand that some guests wont be able to be there as well. I don't at all understand the future mother in law planning it let alone for the day and time she did. I tend to think that she's bossing people into doing what she wants them to do and now she's bossing the OP as well. Good grief is she gonna tell the happy couple to go make her some grandbabies on their wedding night. Me thinks she may smell like doo doo since she's got her head so far up everyones butts. Geez have the kids go to school since yes their education is more important for them.

 

[newchickgal]

I also vote to keep them in school for the reasons noted (they need the school more than they need to go to the wedding).

 

[Mattemma]

I would not bother. We pay for our kids Montessori schooling,and we would not miss days if it was not necessary. If your children were very close to uncle and the new wife I could see going,but as you said this marriage does not really affect them in any way.

Pass on it and let family have whatever attitude they may.They get over it or not-their choice. Never bend to accomodate others when it is against your beliefs. It is not rude that you have made a choice that your mother does not agree with.It is your right as a parent to make choices for your kids that others may not agree with.

 

[SillyChicken]

Leave them in school. If mom complains, tell her (since she planned it all) the wedding should have been planned during a more resonable time period so your children could have attended. How many people had to take time off work for this event? Thats whats rude to me.. planning a wedding during a week day...... pfff!!

I don't think you're being rude at all, just a good parent.