Am I just pathetic?

[redhen]

Yes, i really think SO many people have felt like you do right now (myself included). ANd the only real advice i can give you is to just be yourself..always! And that it ALL will pass..the years go on...you WILL meet other people (trust me!). Soon you will be old enough to get a small job..you'll meet people that way. Your world WILL open up for you soon..it will!

 

[danamillette]

Ohhhh yess yess yessss. I remember those days all too well, although I am 38 now, those days dont seem so long ago. I started my freshman year and my 2 best friends for my whole childhood moved away. Didnt know where to sit for lunch, who to trust. It was horrible. I did make a few good friends however but it was rough. Well, now I have a 16 year old of my own and he has struggled as well. He is now a sophomore and has made some friends. But I dont think he has anyone he truly trusts and has been going thru some depression. He doesnt talk to me about it much, but I hope he is like you and reaches out in his own way. Before you know it you will have graduated and moved on to better days.
Keep in touch! Great group of folks here ALWAYS wanting to talk.

 

[saddina]

You'll be fine. School is going to be the only time in your life you'll be sorted into a group by age, parked in a room all day, and told to stop talking to each other.

Ok so summer's 2 weeks in, why not figure out what YOU want to do this summer? Go swimming, take time to read a book because you want to, not because it's on some list, go volenteer at the animal shelter? Never again will you have such a streach of time to do simply whatever you want to, so figure out what you want to do with yourself, and go do it, you'll meet people there who like what you do.

That reminds me, college sucked far less than highschool, can you take a class over summer?

 

[Sierra pachie bars]

My oldest daughter will be a sophomore. And guess where she is right now, sitting with me. She doesn't go out much. I tend to watch her like a hawk, mainly because what so many of teens her age do is not good. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Nothing wrong with having just a few GOOD TRUE friends. Also staying at home is fine so don't feel bad for yourself. I am a adult and I choose to have a few really good friends. My husband being my best friend and my service dog being a close second lol ..Yes really.
Enjoy your animals and enjoy being young and carefree.

 

[beak]

Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Express your own opinions and don't compromise yourself just to make someone like you. A couple good friends are all you need. Remember that the in crowd is usually not worth being around. They are usually artificial and can't function without all their in friends propping them up.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

Don't let the Internet fool you into thinking that other people are always doing things with other people and making fantastic plans. I know people post things about parties and doing this and that all over Facebook and MySpace, but the reality is, you're probably not the only person sitting alone wanting some companionship right now.

Heck, why are you waiting by the phone for someone to call? Be daring and make the first move -- call someone up and see if you can spend time together.

 

[Year of the Rooster]

Don't worry

The EXACT same thing happens to me, especially about the whole "90/10 friendship" thing. Nobody ever invites me yet they treat me like one of their friends I do have one person who I text a lot and we're good buds. I do go out occasionally, but I'm not invited that often. Just hang in there. Try and reach out, assert yourself. Don't be afraid to ask someone if they want to hang out, and if they say no, just shrug it off. I'm going to be a junior so I'm not that much older than you

 

[Judy]

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This is great advice. This is when you have the time and leisure to explore what you really want. Can't really do much else with teenage years.

Truth is, if you took a poll, you would probably find that most adults you know/respect found their teenage years the worst of their life. Mine certainly were. At 13 or so, we are biologically ready to choose a mate and start a family. Until recent (200 years?) history, people did not live much past 35 or 40. And people many times did not name babies until they were at least 2, in case they died. Our biology is still basically in that stage.

But you can use this time to explore who you really are, choose where you want to go, figure out what you want out of your life. You have a tremendous advantage, if you look at it this way. And school "friends" will turn out to be a minimal part of this, at most.

You are not likely to have very many true friends in your life; most people do not. As for social life, sorry, I see no particular value in it; it is a distraction. Not an evil thing, just worthless.

 

[CATRAY44]

There is a song by Brad Paisley, called "Letter to Me". He wrote it as though he was talking to himself as a teenager, when everything seemed so pointless. The gist of it is found in this lyric of the song....

"You've got so much up ahead
You'll make new friends
You should see your kids and wife
And I'd end by saying have no fear
These are nowhere near the best years of your life"

My best advice is hang in there, and take good care of yourself. You won't know most of those people in 10 years, but you will( by staying true to your self and not become a chameleon to please others) know who you are!. My mom used to tell me, "this too, shall pass". I did not believer her, but she was right. You are on the runway to your future, where you will do and be all that God made you to be.

 

[chixie]

I feel the same way... I have kept two friends from high school...one I rarely see or talk to anymore and she lives in the same town I do( i just don't agree with some of the things she does)... the other one I talk to daily but I feel like I can't really talk to her about some of the things I need to talk about.. .