Am I right or wrong? *Another long rant*

[gritsar]

I talked with my dad yesterday. One of the reasons I called was to confirm that he got his gift.

He asked me if I knew who Becky was? Ummm, yeah Dad, she's my sister. Then he spent half an hour telling me all about what Becky got him for Christmas.

And oh yeah, he got my gift.

Guess I'll deal with it. Can't do anything else about it.

 

[sourland]

My Mom lived in Fla. Wouldn't move up here because she couldn't leave Dad. (By the time she died at 97 he's been in the ground for 35 years.) The lack of control you have when you are in such a situation eats at you. Add evil or perceived as evil family members and the agitation multiplies exponentially. (In my case, the family member is if not evil truly nuts.) No right or wrong here. I know exactly how you feel.

In the end, Karma bit my sister in the butt, and I have not dealt with her since Mom's death.

 

[gritsar]

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[SpottedCrow]

Sounds like the vultures are circling to me too Gritsar...

 

[gritsar]

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Let em circle all they want. Dad and I are going to have a very long talk when we visit.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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I would guess that it really depends on 1) whether the member was active, reserve, retired or simply a veteran and 2) the preferences of the family.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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First question is whether the person doing the handing knew who was who among those at the burial, and a related question is who was sitting where? The next of kin (usually the widow or widower) is usually seated in the middle of the front row. If there is not one, whoever IS next of kin usually sits in that position. I would give the benefit of the doubt, and expect that they did not realize you were the widow.