Ok, I'm usually a lurker but I am going to put my 2 cents in here as I was in 4H as a child. I showed cattle but I think this applies. I can't say this for all parents as mine were active and participated in meeting etc and being a parent myself I try to get educated in what my kids are doing to help them excel and be successful. However, my observations of the a lot of parents is they pretty much just sign the the kids up and drop them off at their meetings. They leave the education totally up to the 4H leaders. Good way to have some free time and enjoy that mocha. Sometimes there is a shortage of leaders and many are not that educated in what they are teaching. They are well meaning people with big hearts for the kids but they need to learn along with the kids. Obviously everyone has the responsiblity, parents and leaders of helping these kids be successful at what they are doing not just giving them an activity. 4H is all about education and the kids should be given the right information. They should also be encouraged to educate themselves about their project by getting on the internet and buying them books on the subject. Get them all a copy of the SOP for Gods sake. By not educating the kids as to proper SOP and what to look for prior to purchasing or choosing a bird and not knowing which class they should be entered in prior to the show, then not disqualifying them when their bird has a disqualification, why are they even in 4H? Why aren't the parents and leaders seeing their need to get educated also. You know what they say, ignorance of the law is no excuse. I was disappointed many times. Someone always had a better steer or breeder than me but it only made me work harder to win. As a result, I have bred animals all my life and always strive for the best even though I know someone else will always have a better one. If disqualifying a bird discouraged the child to the point that they wanted to give up then they either need a pep talk, get another bird and step up the education or parents and leaders need to help that child find something they can be successful at. I think you are doing the child a disservice by coddling them to the point of not disqualifying a bird. How are they going to learn that life has disappointments and you learn from them and move on? Pet classes? Come on! We never had these mamby pamby classes for cows! It was the real deal. Life is real.