An Open Letter to Significant Others (a RANT)

[MROO]

Dear Significant Others,

If your betrothed asks for help, please consider helping. And if you decide you don't want to help, at least offer advice for how to accomplish the task for which your betrothed required help. There is a reason these requests are being made. It is not to annoy you or take time away from your favorite TV show, sport of choice, or hobby. It's being asked for because it is truly needed.

And if that doesn't work for you, at least refrain from pointing out what your betrothed could/should have done differently after the fact. That accomplishes nothing except for one of the following: 1) angering your betrothed, or 2) making him/her feel really stupid and insignificant. The latter is even more likely to occur if you choose to point out missteps using a derisive or mocking tone.

Respectfully,

Your Angry, Stupid and Insignificant Betrothed

Put some eggs in his shoes ... way down deep in the toes ... and maybe crack 'em a bit, first!

 

[Aunt Angus]

Oh, Girl ..... trial by fire!

You are totally making my day, @BigBlueHen53 !

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Lol. I've been raising two of my own, and believe me .... I do understand!

 

[BigBlueHen53]

@MROO I've been meaning to tell you ... that is a beautiful cat in your avatar, and a lovely photo of it. I love the relaxed/thoughtful/ serene expression of its beautiful eyes.

 

[Elsveta641]

Dear Significant Others,

If your betrothed asks for help, please consider helping. And if you decide you don't want to help, at least offer advice for how to accomplish the task for which your betrothed required help. There is a reason these requests are being made. It is not to annoy you or take time away from your favorite TV show, sport of choice, or hobby. It's being asked for because it is truly needed.

And if that doesn't work for you, at least refrain from pointing out what your betrothed could/should have done differently after the fact. That accomplishes nothing except for one of the following: 1) angering your betrothed, or 2) making him/her feel really stupid and insignificant. The latter is even more likely to occur if you choose to point out missteps using a derisive or mocking tone.

Respectfully,

Your Angry, Stupid and Insignificant Betrothed

No real disrespect intended but your betrothed sounds like a wanker lol

 

[cmom]

I have one of those hubby's too. We've been together nearly 50 years. I'm too old to start over. "Yes Dear".

 

[momoftwinsinwi]

Are you talking about your marital partner? If your significant other is "betrothed" and not working out, you can kick him to the curb, and call off the engagement! Once married, it requires a divorce, a much more tedious and onerous process. Being married and staying that way requires patience, a high tolerance for aggravation, ability to problem solve, negotiate, and compromise, and in the case of men, attention getting devices such as frying pans and rolling pins, in order that they will know you are to be taken seriously. Ranting and venting can draw down the anger levels in preparation for meaningful discussions, so have at it, but after, it would be more fruitful to draw your partners attention to the problems and issues at hand... Good luck with that! (and you can find a pretty good rolling pin on ebay). https://www.ebay.com/itm/Vintage-LO...:t9gAAOSwwZtdCoAG:sc:USPSPriority!93314!US!-1 Those maple wood ones are the bomb! (not that I'm advising any violence, just have it in your hand).

You are the voice of many of us girl!!!

 

[momoftwinsinwi]

I have one of those hubby's too. We've been together nearly 50 years. I'm too old to start over. "Yes Dear".

He chooses to "go to bed" which works for us both....takes a lot of years though

 

[momoftwinsinwi]

I brought up a story today with my hubby....said my terminal manger which is 20 years my junior....has a wife that's stays home....yet he had to leave and numerous times has to leave to take care of his 5 and 7 year old because she "can't deal with the stress of taking them to their Dr or dentist appointments and can barely make it to the grocery store by herself......she is 30 years old! My own sister doesn't work and gets stressed when is asked to watch her grandbabies!! What is happening?

 

[cmom]

Hubby just turned 80 and he has parkinson's. Since he has a hard time doing things he relies on me. I have a lot of things I have to put on hold to help him out to do the things he wants to do. I need to get the birds moved around so I can set up my bachelor coops and pens so I can separate the young males from the females and move some youngsters from one coop to another so I can move other chicks into a coop out of their brooders. I have been selling some birds to cut down on the size of my flocks. I try to sneak some time in to do some of the chores I need to do. Hubby doesn't help with the birds. He did like Gladys before a fox got her.