ANGRY....Teacher Put Hands On My Child in a not so good way!!!!

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So this event took place 3 days ago and I am so MAD!

One of my daughters has a not so great teacher. I have been dealing with this teacher for 2 years now. As my oldest had her last year! Any parent that you talk with in town can't stand this teacher! We all feel the same as she just plain hates kids! We are talking about honor roll students getting bad grades from her and not any of the other teachers! How can a kid get all A's and one D! Its insane! Anyway here is the event as it unfolds!

I get a phone call from the school saying "Youjr daughter has fallen into a doorway and has a 3in bruise on her right hip but shes ok" from the school nurse on my voicemail. Im thinking well a student and her were horsing arround and she fell no big deal! So I call the nurse right back and she says oh your daughter is ok we got a little bit freaked out as her bruise is on her pelvis where it was pinned. My daughter has some medical issues which involved reconstruction of her pelvis etc. I asked how did it happen and the nurse said she was not sure I would have to ask my daughter!

Ok so the daughter gets home and tells me the story. Her teacher was having issues with an unruly class! The class has some clowns in it they are 12 and you know they push it too the limit! Anyway The bell rings and it is time to go to the next class! The teacher instructs the class to give her the papers on the way out the door. So my daughter puts the paper in her hand and proceeds to go under the teachers arm in the doorway. The teachers arm which was on the doorway pushes my daughter on the shoulder to stop her from going out of the door and she uses her hip at the same time because the papers were in her other hand I assume Pushes my daughter into the door way saying you can't leave I have not gotten your papers! Mean time the hip hits the metal doorway and the DD falls to the hard ground.

Not an Im sorry from the teacher anything! DD says "You do have my paper I put it in your hand!" My DD gets up off of the ground and goes to the next class and asks to go to the nurse! The nurse not being there as they share a nurse with 2 other schools the principal is involved! So daughter tells what happened and he takes my DD to the teacher and the teacher denys it! Says my DD was making it up! Well sorry my daughter says to the teacher I have witnesses! 9 kids and 1 teacher later the principal has to believe now!

I am for one mad that the nurse did not tell me who or what really happened as it was too late to do anything as my daughter got off of the bus to tell me when nobody was there! So I had to wait until the next day to find out what exactly happened! I was told the nurse can't tell due to hippa its the same as two kids fighting etc. Everyone needs to be protected until all investigations are done! This is not the first time something like this has happened its the 5th! Not all other kids were believed because they were not good kids in school! But now she has done something to a kid who has never been in trouble at school and let the investigations begin!

This whole event has brought DCFS ,school board and Police involved! My daughter has a huge 3in bruise on her pelvis and you can tell its from the door jam! I am so mad! Just so all know I am not the one to call all athorities the school has its procedure! I for one hope this teacher learns a lesson here! Im not so sure of the outcome here as it is all still being under investigation but I do know the teacher has been put on leave! Im just wondering what is next? I have been out of work for the past 2 days while the proceedings begin!
 
Take a deep breath.
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It sounds like they are taking this seriously. Keep your head. Don't do anything (including excessive anger) that would undermine you and your daughter's story.

I'm proud of you .. sorry that you daughter experienced that.

Sounds like the teacher is in trouble .. and other kids may be saved from her harrassment in the future!

You did good mom.
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Take pictures.
 
What I have to say about this "teacher" will not help you in any way.

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I'll just pray that everything works out the way God intends and your daughter heals up quickly.
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I am so proud of myself for keeping my cool! Im am just wondering why does it take 5 kids to have to deal with this for something to be done? I was informed 2 cases will be reopened that were unfounded in the last 80 days! I am also hoping that she does not come back to work next week like she did the last 2 times! 3 day suspension with pay is for the birds! As far as Im concerned! And to think she was blocking the door of a kid with a 504 plan that states this child must be able to leave classroom at all times for restroom purposes!
 
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I am so sorry to hear your daughter was hurt. Good thing it wasn't serious. The important thing is to not act rashly. Study the school handbook thoroughly on what channels to go through. There is usually protical involved and the steps can be pretty complex.

Also have a journal for both you and your daughter. Write down everything that happens and have your daughter do the same. Not just what happened when she was injured, but every meeting, discussion, and proceeding. Write down the time and day, these proceedings could take a long time and you need to have your ducks in a row, and your memory can get fuzzy over time so a journal helps.

Remember to keep tabs on everything. Be a constant presence to show you're interested in working things out but don't be overly combative (which can be hard when it's your child being injured) which could actually make things worse. There is often a time limit on how long you have to put certain things in motion, which is why you must stay focused on what is going on. So definitely make yourself accustomed with the school district procedures and laws and be aware that they may try to make you run out of time to push for certain things. (I am not saying they will, but I have run into schools that have)
 
That is why I put it here to kinda get to understand what happens next! Day one incodent at 11:30. Call to me 1:30 Day 2 I call the school at 9:30 and warn them Im comming in to talk about the matter at 1:30. I find out that daughter refused to go to her class and choose to sit in the office doing the classes work! Smart thinking daughter I didnt even think about that! It was all a blurr and was still in shock! Meeting consist of principal telling me hes been talking with the super all day, DCFS was notified and I told the a police report will be made! That night DCFS worker came to the house to interview and take pictures and instructed my daughter not allowed in classroom with teacher until further notice! Day 3 teacher instructed not to come back to school! I ask school what is going to be done they say they can't comment! Now what do I do? Sit back and wait?
 
Take a BIG BIG deep breath and just stay VERY VERY cool.

You need to stick with this and stay VERY VERY cool. You do NOT want to be the mad mom here. Just stay very, very cool through each step. It takes a lot of time, usually, for these things to work their way through all the channels. And you will repeat things many times, so will daughter. Tell HER to be cool too. Be very, very calm, and don't interpret any question as anything other than just crossing the t's and dotting the i's.

Daughter may want to write all the details down now so she doesn't forget any. Make sure it's absolutely factual, nothing but facts.

Take it from a fact nerd, facts are your friends.
 
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That is where all my problems begin, when it comes to my kids, I am just plain stupid! I commend you for keeping your cool, it is best at this point, since they are taking it seriously and have suspended this teacher. They need to fire this teacher, she does not like kids, she abuses them and does not need to be in any position that deals with children.

I would press charges for abuse and make sure she never teaches again.
 
One more channel that you need to go through to get things accomplished... ANY news outlet! Schools will often times try to let time laps so that they don't have to deal with a lot of issues. Our school lost several kids and gave kids to strangers. Nothing was ever done to help rectify the situation or keep the kids safe. Once the local paper was involved it was a slightly different story. After the TV news was involved it was a VERY different story. The school got on the ball to help keep the kids safe. No school system wants for the public to know when they are doing something very wrong (like putting kids in danger). A lot of times the media is a pain in the behind but it can also be your friend in showing and getting more people on board with your cause. I hope everything turns out great for you and DD and that she is ok and feels better soon
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If you haven't filed a complaint yourself, do so now. There's usually specific forms and deadlines you have to adhere to. Don't rely strictly on the school, school district, principal, etc, to get what you want accomplished. Utimately, they are a business and it's in their best interest to reduce their liability.
 

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