Morning Home Bakers. Started raining here ..
No sign of
@Aria want her back to us.
On one hand, I hope she didn’t leave. On the other hand, if she did leave, I can see why.
LONG POST:
I have been cyber bullied many times in my life on many different places on the Internet. It can be very painful emotionally. In the moment, I wanted to leave the place I was bullied for good. Sometimes, I did leave for good, because I wanted to avoid pain from being cyber bullied again. The problem with doing this is it doesn’t resolve the trauma of being cyber bullied. In fact, if you try to cover up the trauma without allowing your brain to process and resolve it, it can do more harm than good.
A good example was several years ago when I first joined a hunting forum. The moment I posted my successful turkey hunt picture, I was cyber bullied because I “did something wrong and was an accident waiting to happen.”
I left that forum, but the effects of the trauma were still there. I was living in fear of being cyber bullied again due to trauma from the cyber bullies.
Several years later, still feeling the trauma effects, I decided to face my fear and allow my brain to process the trauma and get rid of it. I posted that “they were right, I did make a mistake on that hunt, and I left because I felt cyber bullied.”
I am now a good member of that forum and I have some good friends there. The trauma disappeared.
Like I said, the BEST thing to do is to try to process the trauma BEFORE it takes over your emotional life, even if it means going to a therapist.
If she did leave, it might be because of the pain and trauma of being cyber bullied.
I hope and pray she gets through it and comes back.
