Any other childless chicken moms out there?

[Agilityscots]

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Laura, what are these? My ob-gyn knows I don't want kids but hasn't offered any options like this. I'm not really excited about the thought of a tubal ligation, so this sounds intriguing...

Amy

 

[mom'sfolly]

I love my MIL. She sends my husband fathers day cards from the cats and talks about both her grandkids and grand cats.

 

[newchickowner]

IUDs
An IUD (Intra-Uterine Device) is inserted into the womb by a doctor. Two types of IUDs are now used in the United States: the Paragard Copper T 380A, which releases copper, and the Progestasert Progesterone T, which releases progesterone, a form of progestin. The Paragard IUD can stay in place for 10 years. The Progestasert must be replaced every year. A doctor must remove it.

I wanted one, for the 5 year, but my insurance wouldn't cover it several years ago, and it was too expensive for me then. I haven't looked into it recently though.


Here's a link
http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/iudinfo.htm

 

[CarriBrown]

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She may not have told you because she doesn't want to do it. There are ob's that choose not to do them on childless women, especially if you're under 30 or single.

 

[arwmommy]

My understanding is that Essure is NOT an IUD, but rather a type of "coil" that is placed in the fallopian tubes, thereby causing scar tissue. The scar tissue prevents and egg from passing, and fertilizing/implanting, thereby having the same effect as a TUBAL LIGATION (having your tubes tied) without the surgery.

Most OBGYN's are VERY VERY hesitant to do these on anyone under 35 and on anyone without kids, however, if you are well informed, and have a heart to heart with your doctor she/he may feel that you are a candidate for Essure.

 

[EweSheep]

From what info I got from my sis, her OB/GYN doctor said that some state laws and federal laws prohibit women of child bearing age from having sterilizations.....but its ok for men to have theirs done. What gives??!!! I thought we have the right to our own bodies and if we decided not to have children, why not have it done and be done with it. I know decisions are not to be made lightly and I would have advised any young ladies to think long and hard about it and get some kind of counseling (almost like pre-martial counseling).

It irks me that the laws of this country does not work with women who decisions are based on her well being and she wants to have a childless life. Birth control is very expensive if you need to take it for almost a lifetime and it would pay for the surgery itself many times over.

Go figure!

 

[newchickowner]

Again a society seeing that it's our most important job on this planet to produce. Lot's of homeless children in this world, if a woman doesn't want children it should be her decision to make, not the government.

Guess I sort of dove into a whole other topic! Sorry

 

[mom'sfolly]

Most doctors won't perform sterilizations of women under thirty, and medicare will not pay for any under the age of 21; but I don't think it is illegal. Forced sterilization of "undesirables" has historically been much more of an issue. It is insulting that doctors think that women don't know for themselves what they want. Sort of a metaphorical pat on the head and a "there, there, girlie, I know what you really want" One of my oldest friends said as a young teenager she never wanted children, and she has stuck to her guns.

 

[mlheran]

I think a lot of the doctor resistance comes from liability, because there have been suits brought against doctors claiming that they "didn't tell them it would be permanent!" So it's better for them to be super-super careful rather than potentially sued out of practice.

When my husband had his vasectomy (at 26) we both had to go in and talk to the doctor. His first comment after we said we definitely wanted a vasectomy and definitely didn't want children was, "So you already have several?"

So after we made our united position clear he said fine and made sure (with plenty of horribly illustrated pamphlets) we knew that it should be considered permanent. To which we were like, "Duh, that's why we want it."

It almost seems like it would be better if people had to have minor surgery to have children, rather than to not have them -maybe people would think about it a bit more before rushing in!

 

[cruelshoes]

We have 3 kids and wouldn't trade them for the world. I couldn't imagine my life without them. Having said that, good for all you ladies for knowing that you want another path. No one thing is best for everyone, and there are plenty of people out ther who probably shouldn't have had kids in the first place. I am looking at those tubal implants too, now that I am done cranking out kids.

Funny story - I had cancer as a teenager. It was originally thought to be terminal. The one thing that people were always saying to my parents was "what a shame. She will never have children." My dad would just goggle at peole and say "Gee - I was just concerned about her living to her next birthday."

Don't think too many bad thoughts about us "breeders." We are nice people too!