Any other childless chicken moms out there?

[ratlummountain]

wow tj, thats one of the most amazing acts of love i've ever heard.
i couldn't imagine the heartbreak you must feel, but girlfriend, don't ever second guess the decision you made.
as a child who was abused by my father, i thank you for saving her.

 

[newchickowner]

Wow! TJ I can't imagine the pain you have gone through and the pain you still suffer for having to have made the decisions in the past. But you did it for the love of your child, and I admire your strength.

I don't think any of us gals here in BYC is going to shun you for choosing to save your child's life. There has been tremendous acceptance in this thread for all of us to see. Real women, real problems, real support, real friendship!

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

I find it amazing that doctors argue with me about this! My last GP (a woman) was terribly patronizing. "Oh, you might want a child someday...". No, I don't think so. I'm 38 years old, don't have a BF or husband and at this point unlikely to have either. It's too hard to raise a child on your own and who wants a toddler at age 40 anyway. I am too old and have been on too many chemically potent medicines in the past to have a healthy child. It would likely come out with a third arm at this point (which my sister argues would be terribly useful).
Do doctors argue with men like this?

I am very happy being the Favorite Aunt. I get all the fun parts with none of the hard stuff. It is terribly selfish of me, I know, but I love getting to be the one that is all treat and no trauma. I love watching my nieces' eyes light up when I walk in- I will always be the cool adult they want to hang out with. I bless my sister and brother every day for providing me with such great kids to play with and with the ability to send them back home!

My family finally quit pushing me about babies when I told my mom "Fine. Give me about 10 months and I will pop one out for you. BUT... You better be prepared for me and the kid to move back home. And you're gonna need to support us as I will want to stay home with the child." Clearly she believed me because the prodding stopped.

Now, If only I could get the world to quit asking when I'm going to get married...

 

[nccatnip]

I am not childless, have two grown daughters. But I respect every woman's decision one if these choose to procreate at all. It would not have bothered me at all if either or both of my daughters chose to remain child free.
Just today I spotted a bumper sticker on the back of a car
*****If I want to hear the pitter patter of little feet, I will put shoes on my dog******

 

[Buff Hooligans]

Regarding the pitying comments about being childless, why don't we turn it around and tell people to stop sublimating their desire for chickens by having children. They should stop being so selfish and settle down and have chickens. A chickenless life is no life!

 

[tiffanyh]

Regarding the pitying comments about being childless, why don't we turn it around and tell people to stop sublimating their desire for chickens by having children. They should stop being so selfish and settle down and have chickens. A chickenless life is no life!

I have a ton of respect for women who chose to be child free and who don't get pressured by society or family. I knew I wanted kids early on--but I also want a lot of other things and kids really do required most of your mind, body and spirit. And they deserve it if you decide to bring them into this world. I am fortunate to have my mother as a my full time daycare provider (yes, I pay her what I would any other childcare provider--UGH) and I have a career and hobbies I love--

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I see my life as perfect for what I wanted, and I am so very pleased that you all knew yourselves well enough to know what you wanted out of life.​

 

[Iluvmychickens]

I am childless, in the sense that I was never blessed by God to have natural children. It took many years and many tears to realize things do happen for a reason. I was told at age 17 that my female organs never developed and my uterus, tubes and cervix was that of a 3 year old girl and I would never be able to carry a child. Once told that I wanted to prove the Doctors wrong so at every opportunity that presented itself I was determined to get pregnant. It never happened. I had a full hysterectomy at age 29.

I met and fell in love with my husband Dan in November 1976 when I was 18. He had 3 kids from a previous marriage. We married in May 1977 and 6 months after we were married his ex called & said you need to take the kids. 2 of the kids aged 4 and 11 moved in with us. The other aged 7 stayed with his ex.
Ah Ha I was blessed by God and now had 2 kids to love and raise.
My sister always had kids at the drop of a hat and was a terrible mother in my eyes. She gave up her 2 oldest kids to her ex husband. How could she do that I never knew. She had no real reason just selfishness, a way for her to continue a drug life with no responsibilities.
She then became pregnant again with a little girl. All I could think of was this poor child. Well as all would be I gained custody of my neice when she was 3 years old after being sexually molested by the drugged out husband of my sister's at the time.
When my neice was 8 years old she asked me "Antadeta-(short for Aunt DeeDee) why didnt you ever have a baby?" my answer to her was "God knew that one day there would be a blond haired, blue eyed little girl who needed someone to love and protect her and God made that person you and me." I have been so blessed over the years. My neice is now 25 and has 2 girls of her own. I have been married now for 30 years to the greatest man I ever knew and my three stepkids have given me 5 beautiful grandchildren to love and cherish.
Yes I am childless only in the respect I never gave birth. And as I have always said " Anyone can be a mother, only few can be Mom's"

 

[newchickowner]

wonderful story, thanks for sharing!